Simply...Woman!

Crystal Andrus Morissette: You
want to know what I've been

seeing in women over 40, women
over 50, women over 60? Lately,

I have been seeing a burning
truth, maybe even a simmering

rage, a hunger that can no
longer be ignored. You've done

the healing, you've read the
books, you've kept your life

together while the world pulled
at your edges. And now you're

asking, wait, what about me? Not
the performance, not the masks,

the real you. What about the
real me? The real you? Because

here's the truth, your dreams
don't expire, your fire didn't

go out. You just got a little
buried beneath responsibility. I

know it happened to me too, the
people pleasing, the

perfectionism, but not anymore,
because there is a wave rising.

Can you feel it? There is a wave
rising? It's everywhere. And

it's funny, because when I first
launched Empowerment Coaching,

back in like, 2002 before anyone
was doing coaching at the time,

I was a personal trainer and a
nutritionist, and I realized,

like, I don't have to be in the
gym. There are so much we can

just do by talking, sitting in
an office, talking, sitting over

the phone, and talking. And I
launched that back in 2002 and

no one was doing Empowerment
Coaching. And I was like, I

coined it. And I think it's
amazing that I got on the wave,

I felt the wave, I knew the
wave. I trusted the wave, and in

2009 I launched the S.W.A.T.
Institute, Simply...Woman

Accredited Trainer for an
Empowerment Coaching institution

Exclusively for Women. We've
been at this now for, Holy

Hannah, quite a while, but I
feel something different that I

have never felt in my lifetime,
until now. And maybe it's me,

maybe it's that I'm ready, maybe
that I'm part of this big wave

that's happening. It's a tidal
wave. I can see it. Brilliant

women finally choosing
themselves. Brilliant women who

always knew and knew what to do,
and did some of it, but just

never really said, like, Wait,
what about me and this ripple

effect that's happening? Can you
not see it and feel it? It's

unstoppable. So if you've been
playing a little small it's

okay. If you've been turning
down your light, a little bit,

dimming your dimmer switch
inside, so to speak, or even

doubting your timing, not only
is it not too late, it's the

time is now You're right on
time. This is your comeback

story. This is Simply...Woman
and it starts now!

Hey, welcome to Simply...Woman.
I'm Crystal Andrus Morissette,

and this is where powerful women
come to rise, one bold coaching

conversation at a time. Now,
last week, we had truly an

unforgettable session with
Sharon. Well, our newest,

actually, our newest master
empowerment coach, who is

certified and graduated from the
S.W.A.T. Institute. She's from

Australia. I always say it like
that, because Oprah said "We're

going to Australia," and you
know me and Oprah, but Sharon

showed us like she just brought
it and she was just ready. You

know, I always say come to play,
and really that what that means

is just stand in your truth,
even when it's hard. And today,

we're going to do a quick follow
up with Sharon, because

transformation never stops when
the call ends. In fact, that's

always just the beginning. So
we're going to check back in

with Sharon and see what's been
unfolding since our last

conversation. So good, Sharon,
thank you for being here. Thanks

for coming back. Thanks for
showing up with such like raw,

radiant truth. You're radiant
today, and that's really what

this work is all about. It's
real women doing the real work,

and now we you know, like, it's
amazing where we're going to go

from here. So Sharon, fill us in
what's been happening for you.

Unknown: Okay, yes, that was one
powerful talk we had the other

last week. I got off the phone,
or got off our call, and I'm

like, Oh, my goodness, that was
that was something else. And

there's the way. Well, for me in
Australia, I actually had to go

back to bed.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Well,
yeah, it's also what time there.

Unknown: It's three. O'clock in
the morning. So

Crystal Andrus Morissette: thank
you for being up at three in the

morning to talk with Crystal. I
am so grateful to you.

Unknown: That's quite okay and
but you know, sometimes I find

going back to rest or having a
nap after a powerful session, it

it just sort of releases more of
what I just spoke about, and I

just sort of went through a lot
of releasing. And that morning,

when I actually did wake up
again and I went and had a

shower, I one of the things I've
taught my clients is a shower

ritual that I do to cleanse and
to release any residue that was

left of letting go. And so I did
that that morning, and I had

such a long shower. Tell

Crystal Andrus Morissette: us a
little bit. Give us the Cliffs

Notes version of that, like,
what you go into the shower and

is there a mantra and what?
What's, what's that cliff notes

version of it, or the calls, not
here in Canada.

Unknown: So what I say to
clients, and a brief note, is

that when you go through,
working through some things, and

you're doing some clearing,
especially after our coaching

session, or if it's been quite a
huge one, to have a shower.

Usually, I prefer before bed,
but have a shower and do a

visualization of releasing
anything that no longer serves

you. And so hop in the shower
and allow the water just to flow

over you for a bit, for
initially, for a little while,

and then start the process. And
as the water comes down, you can

just feel all that releasing.
And as you sort of you can watch

it go down past your fingers,
and just watch all the

everything that no longer serves
you just going down the drain,

and it's the most incredible
process, and a lot of the time

mantra

Crystal Andrus Morissette: that
you repeat, I mean, you have to

realize Sharon's been doing this
as a coach a long time. She's a

master at this. So to let
herself be so vulnerable and to

be coached like that share and
that's like that in itself is so

huge because it is a big I
really want to honor that like

it's, it can be, it can be. It
can be harder when you're also

an expert, to let yourself be
the student and to let yourself

be coached. It's, yeah, I know
it puts yourself in a vulnerable

position and but I just love
that one of the things that we

are not our mandate, but our
mission with the SWAT Institute

is always but empower yourself
and transform others. So it's

not just helping others, it's
got you've got to let yourself

also be seen and and healed and
witnessed and loved, and so you

did that. And I just want to
thank you for that. And so you

get in your shower and you're
seeing the water running off

you, and you had a really, it
was a lot of crying, yeah, just

to give us, if, for those that
didn't see last week, Sharon

just really connected it to her
mother, who passed young, too

young. Sharon's age 55 it was
the freedom 55 call and and

there was a real breakthrough of
the realization of how can how

much your story has been
anchored into your mother's

story. And you really needed to
release yourself from those

unconscious commitments that
you'd made to your mother in

trying to protect her.

Unknown: Yeah, yeah. That came a
couple of days after that

release, and that, that
realization what what I've been

doing, and this is one thing
that I found when I had the

shower, is that I released so
much more, in the sense of the

connection of of my father
towards my mother, yes and and

yes, I cried a lot more anyway.
That really helped in almost,

you could say a domino ripple
effect. That's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it.
That's it. That's how this

works. It's a dark ripple
effect.

Unknown: And that was just the
start of it. And then a couple

as the weekend and the couple of
days went on, it hit me, and it

was one of the biggest
revelations that the whole thing

started when we spoke last week,
was my knee was playing up, and

that was where in when we did
the elevator, that's what I

found.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: So we
went down into the body and

says, there anything that's
hurting, and you said, we went

to your knee, and all of a
sudden it was like, this is

connected to my and it just came
and we just went within. That's

the power of what. We call it
the imagination, your spirit,

your soul, just whatever
speaking to you, trusting it,

going along with it, letting it
be, and you just went along with

whatever your body said, and you
let it out. And man, that takes

a lot of courage.

Unknown: It certainly does. And
then they're like, Okay, so what

else is? What's going on.
Because I know there was more.

There was so much more, and that
just was opening up the Pandora

box. And it was, as you said,
Freedom, 55 because it was the

thing I said to my mother, and
that's what hit me. I said to my

mother, you know, because she's
been gone since she was when I

was 25 so that's a long time.
And I remember saying, right,

I'm 55 now it's time to for me
to live my life for you the way

that you would like it. I'm
thinking, but then I'm thinking,

Well, why is my wrist? And I've
been wondering why my right

wrist has been playing up and
been painful for the last couple

of years, and then it hit me,
I've been holding my mum's hand

for the whole time, wishing she
was still alive, and realizing

that I've been living her life
the way that she could have

lived it if she'd stayed alive
and didn't leave us. And that

was the most, biggest revelation
that and I posted in our SWAT

forum because I want I needed to
get it out and speak somewhere

safely and sacredly and to
release my mother's hand, and

the thing I put up which got me
realizing was that I was holding

on so tight with my right hand,
which is the moving forward side

of me, that it was hurting me
more than allowing my beautiful

mother let go, let go. So I had
to do again. Jumped in the

shower after I did my own, okay,
own releasing and everything

like that, and saying to my
mother, thank you so much. I

need to let you go now. I need
to allow you to do your thing so

I can finally live my life. And
I did another shower ritual,

cried again, let it all out and
released everything and oh my

goodness. What the domino effect
I've had ever since then, it's

just been the most powerful
opening of doors is just yeah,

I'm so grateful. Thank you

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so
beautiful. I too because of you

so thank you. Have had a huge
release around my mother and the

unconscious commitment that I
too, was showing how it could

have been, how it could have
been, could have been like this.

We could have been like this,
and you could have been like

this, kind of mom, and you could
have been with me, and you could

have been with my children, and
I didn't realize like I was

still holding on to that. So
your courage and vulnerability

has helped me write pages and
pages and pages and pages and

pages and pages of letter
letting go and just, if we're

just, we're all learned
together. So I just want to

thank you for that, because I
think a lot of us realize that

we, we whether, whether it's a
mother wound, where we're

wounded by our mothers, or
whether we're we're wounded for

our mothers, because we love
them so much, and we're just,

oh, they didn't get the life.
And we're just so committed, or

we're so wounded that we're so
confused by our mothers, like,

there's just, there's always
this, and it will always be

there. It can never really be
broken, but there's always going

to be the connection that you
are your mother's daughter, and

how do we reframe that to make
it serve us?

Unknown: I agree, and I found
that then the ripple effect was

I went to a guilt mode. I felt
guilty that I actually couldn't

save my mother, even though I
know that I had no way of saving

her, but because I was in the
room when it happened, and I was

the only one, and I didn't know
first aid and all this kind of

stuff, you know, CPR, yes, I
felt the guilt so then my whole

right side went into for the
first time ever, I felt it. I

was in pain on my right side,
all down the side of my spine,

which is where guilt is held for
me, and even though I felt like

I'd done all the work and I got
rid of all that guilt. But

Crystal Andrus Morissette: what's
so beautiful? About this is

we're always evolving. This is
an evolution of your

consciousness. What's happening
so you're evolving consciously.

So it's a deeper healing, it's a
deeper letting go, and it just

continues to be these
opportunities to surrender, and

that pain comes up in the body
to just, I know it's so hard to

get your head around because I
am such a sensitive body, like

I'm always feeling everything.
There's always something wrong,

and I'm always like, Okay, this
is another opportunity for me to

heal something in my past, or
something emotionally, surrender

something great. Thanks, God.
Goddess, good job. But I do now

see that your body is your
temple is there to show you

where you're still holding on
to, limiting stories that we

don't need to hold on to
anymore. So thank you, Sharon,

that was really beautiful.

Unknown: Thank you. It was just
incredible process over that

period of time and I'm and now
definitely I have the freedom of

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
just feel so good,

Unknown: and I just feel like
I'm reborn, like I'm finally

living the life that I'm ready
to live, that I wanted. Yes,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: because
you said, like I've always tried

to live the life that my mother
could have lived. And in my

head, as soon as you said it, I
was, did think that has to stop

now, and it has to be, I'm going
to live the life that I want to

live. Yes, I know that's exactly
right. It's alright. Let's

everybody take a big deep breath
with Sharon Big breath in. We're

all going to get inhale love. Is
going to peel all that love down

into our bodies. We're going to
let go of anything that we don't

need in our bodies. We're going
to take another big breath with

Sharon, filling ourselves up
with all the love that's all

around us, and we're just going
to pull it right down into our

bodies and just give such
grateful Oh, juiciness,

thankfulness to each other.
Thank you, Sharon, thank you for

being part of this conversation
and so great pleasure. Thank you

so good, Sharon, so good. Thank
you for showing up. That was

just amazing, and we all felt
it, and that is what this is

about. It's just real women
doing the real work, and it's

just really authentic and it's
really honest. And now we're

going to open the door to
another powerful story, another

beautiful woman, another guest
who's stepping into the love

seat. And I never know what
we're going to talk about, or

what she's going to bring or
what's going to happen. But I

always know this, whatever it
is, it matters, because when one

woman speaks her truth, she
gives every other woman

permission to do the same. So
let's dive in. Hey, So Candace

is in the love seat today.
Candace, I'm so grateful that

you're here. Let's take a big,
deep breath and relax into your

body and just tell me what's
going on for you right now.

A lot of

Unknown: a lot of disconnect and
a lot of disconnect and just not

feeling I've entered a six,
seven year pattern where, like

seven years ago, well, eight
years ago, I guess seven, eight

years ago, I was in the same
place. I was feeling depressed

and just not feeling like
myself, things like that. And

yeah, and anyways, so I went
searching, I was put on

antidepressants, but that like
that didn't feel right. So, you

know, it was kind of like it's
my birthright to be happy type

thing, without medication kind
of thing. And anyways, I went on

a on a journey to kind of figure
out, how can I be happy again

without medication, and I
entered Crystal's world, and it

was interesting, because, I
guess, basically Long story

short, like it's, it's, I'm,
I'm, kind of, I feel like I'm

back there, but I'm not, I'm at
a new layer. I'm at a new level.

And it was just so interesting
how, you know, you came back

into my life again, like just
and serendipitously.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Almost
like it just Yeah, yeah, like,

and everything. It's always
timing, yeah,

Unknown: and like, I was saying
to my husband, like, even

before, you know, like, you kind
of reached out, and I'm like, I

I have been focusing so much on
everybody else and not on

myself. And they said, I, I need
somebody for me, just for me,

yeah. So it was just
interesting. And like, the past,

like I've been, you know, like I
was on the last two met calls,

and just very emotional, and
it's yeah, it's Yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah.
Well, thank you, and thanks for

like, you've just come back into
my world and you're so

courageous. Know that that we
are, we are many things. And I

don't want to say, I don't want
to say, I know you know this. So

just as I'm saying things, I
think you know this, and so I

know you know this, but I just
want to, like, remind you of it.

Because sometimes we just need
little reminders that we are

this, and that we can be like,
very bright light, like you have

a very bright light about you,
like you can just feel it. And

as soon as you come on, you can
kind of just feel there's a real

earnest soul, like you have a
very, very earnest spirit that

wants to be happy, like that's
your you're searching for just

to be yourself. And I can feel
that and and remembering that we

can be that and be sad at the
same time. We can be a bright,

beautiful soul and that such
evolved consciousness in just

how you were born into the
world, but you can also been

born into things that, like are
sad and so you can be both

things. And I think that's what
a lot of us that are kind of

seeking, that what I call us the
light workers, or the light

seekers or the there is a group
of us, there's, I mean, there's

probably millions of us, but we
have found each other, and we're

finding each other all over the
world where we are seeking

happiness. Like, what does that
mean to be happy? Interesting.

Like, that's my word for the
year. Is happiness. So, you

know, every year I pick a word,
and this year the word was

happiness. I want to be happy,
just like you, deep in my soul,

no matter what's going on in the
outside world. And, you know,

I've have some conditions right
now that I'm so it's funny you

talk about medicine, because I'm
on a bit of medicine right now.

And so I struggle with that too,
because we're we're the nature

girls we should be able to be
happy. We should be having from

the inside out. I also know that
there's, I'm not not I don't

even want to get into whether
medicine is right or wrong, or

any of that. But I also know
that there is a place for

everything, and sometimes
there's little pit stops that we

need a little bit of medical
help can also be a soothing bomb

temporarily to help us just
recalibrate and get kind of

grounded again. So I do want to
say this, that there I want, I'm

gonna, I'm gonna say it in this
way, don't feel guilty, even

though telling you not to feel
guilty is going to make you feel

guilty, but like we don't have
to feel guilty and ashamed,

because we're human, and we have
a human brain and a human body,

even though you're this high
resonating soul, so in your

humanness, there may just be
some clicks and things and

little things that are happening
in your body that your body

says, Well, you know, we do live
in 2025 and they do have

medicine. And if you're really
having a hard time, we can

support you. There's sometimes.
All I'm saying is, be gentle

with yourself, because medicine
has saved a billion lives, too.

And it can be a short term
thing, and it can sometimes be

it's okay you're gonna need
this. And aren't you so grateful

that we live in 2025 and you
have it, and you can be really

happy with it, and if you need
it, and if you don't need it,

there'll be a time that you'll
get off of it because you no

longer are needing it. So I'm
just saying that, because as

much as I am the granola mom, my
kids now say, Mom, it's not

called granola mom anymore. It's
called a, what's the kind of mom

now I forget. They tell me some
I don't know. It's like,

basically a, we do everything
naturally. We grow our own

herbs, we can our own food. We
do our own things. We live. Yes,

it's an almond mom. It's some
one of these moms like, you

know, so I really like to do
things as natural as possible,

but I too, have had to have
Candace. I have memory of you

like I have a deep connection to
you, and so I probably because

when Candace says I came back
into your life, I can literally

remember one or two. Calls we
like a discovery session. I feel

like we might have had and I
feel like I remember everything

you said to me. And I feel like,
without getting into it, you and

I have some deep core wounds to
our mothers. And there's,

there's some stuff in there that
I think can create dark nights

of the soul that nobody else in
the world really ever quite

understands that the poor wound,
and I don't, maybe yours isn't

anymore, like, maybe you're
like, I've worked that one out.

But I do want to say I sometimes
think, Geez, I've hit a few

times in my life where it got
dark and I needed that extra

help, and I did have
antidepressants at times in my

life that were like, I saw the
light of day, and then I got out

of that dark place, and then I
got myself back doing all the

things that I wasn't doing, like
the walking and the exercising

and the eating and all the
things that like I was doing.

Now, if you're like, I'm doing
everything, I'm doing all the

things. So that can be another,
different conversation. But what

comes up for you, even as I
share that part with you, well,

you know, thank

Unknown: you for saying that.
Because, like, I like, even

though, like my like, with my
coaching business, you know,

like, I focus on chronic pain
and like, you know, the the

aspect of, you know, like the
natural, the emotional aspect,

right? You know, I still do
believe in western medicine, you

know, and, and it's interesting,
because, like, you know, I say

I'm, I feel like I'm back in
that same spot, yet what I feel

to myself is, is yes, and it's
just new. It's just a new layer

where it hasn't I'm grateful for
everything that I've done,

everybody that I have met, every
you know, all of that kind of

stuff, and all the work that I
have done up until now, because

I'm not there anymore, right?
Like, it's just a new layer

where it's that recognizing, and
it's the whole thing of just, I

just want to feel complete
again, you know, kind of thing.

So, yeah, yeah. And, and I am
doing all the things like, not

doing all the things, but I am.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: The
things that you're like, you

know what I'm doing? Enough of
the things that I see other

people that are not doing any of
these things, and they're happy

for God's sakes, like, what the
hell. So if you could, and we're

going to go into your body in
just a minute, because your body

is really the best place to,
like, just connect and let it

speak to you. But before we go
into the body and we're just

going to use that thinking
brain, is there something that

you in your brain intuitively,
or just like, there's something

in your awareness that's been
saying, I think it's connected

to this. I feel like it's
connected to this. It's

Unknown: like, there's, there's
definitely a core wound of, not,

I don't like, you know, I wish I
could say that I'm over. I'm

over the mother wound. I really
wish I could say that. However,

I don't think I am. I've
obviously done a lot of work

behind this, and or else I
wouldn't be where I am

absolutely right, however it
like for me right now, it's,

it's, it's like a core wound of
of not being good enough, of not

being worthy, and of not feeling
worthy and, and it just kind of

extends, and that is really what
it extends throughout with my

business, because it's like, I
feel like I'm passed by. I feel

like I'm invisible, yeah, so
it's, it's, it's very it's very

interesting. So, yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah,
and, and that is very root

chakra, because that, you know,
I don't mean to keep saying

because I I do say to my
coaches, don't do that when

you're coaching, yeah, me too.
Yeah, me too. But like, Yeah, me

too. So like, as you're talking,
like, I get that, like, I really

feel you at a deep level of that
feeling of like, yeah, I don't

like, you're so good at what you
do. And like, why is it not

clicking for you the way it
clicks for other people and you?

So I want to first say, I see
you like, I really see you. And

I mean that I see you and and
I'm so sorry that that wound

goes back to without us even
talking about it, there's a

wound that goes back to not
feeling seen and and I just

really, I know I didn't do it to
you, but, and sometimes when I

say to people, I'm so sorry,
they go, you don't have

anything. You feel sorry. But I
do know I'm really sorry, like I

know how hard that wound is.
Yes, is there any part you want

to share with us? Anyone, just
for context of what you or

anything at all, you want to
share about what you've been

through or not

Unknown: today? It's like my, my
biological mom. They my, my

biological mom just wasn't ready
to, I guess, raise. She just

wasn't ready to to, kind of have
have a child. So my parents were

married very young. Just because
of her being pregnant. She had

left my dad and I when I was
two. And then there was just a

lot of, there's just a lot of
things that happened, you know,

like, kind of emotionally,
mentally, physically, yeah, etc,

you know,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah.
And sexually, it's, it's

interesting how we always just
kind of pop that at the end,

like, emotionally management,
sexually, yeah, and, and it's,

and it's hard, and, and, like, I
just want you to know, like, I'm

I see you, I hear you, I feel
you, I don't I know how, how

hard those can be. And in spite
of that, you're still strong and

amazing and smart and amazing
and wonderful, and you have your

husband and your son. Is it your
son you have? Is you have one or

just fine? Yeah, I remember that
that's literally I'm going on

memory, and your iridescent,
your business, and your purple,

and your shiny, and all of that
is your soul, speaking like all

of that. Why don't we put two
feet on the floor, and why don't

we get out of our busy brains,
and why don't we just together,

just try to drop down. So we're
just going to first undo our

hands. Let's take our hands away
from your chin. Let's together,

take a big breath in so you
really feel yourself expand. And

if you can lift your arms with
me, we're going to fill up

together. So we're just going to
take a big breath in and really

just reach. And imagine you're
reaching for the heavens, for

whatever you believe is out
there that's bigger. And we're

all connected to you and I are
both part of it, and we're going

to draw on that, that we are all
a part of that oneness, that

sisterhood, that connectedness,
and we're going to use our

hands, and we're almost going to
take a little hold of a bit of

it, and we're going to pull it
down into our bodies and just

pull a little handful of it and
put it into your heart, and just

breathe it into your heart and
know that you're safe and you're

supported here. And just
breathing into your body, let

your shoulder blades drop down.
Let your shoulders drop down

from your ears that you're
breathing deep in. All of us can

be doing this together. We're
all just dropping into our

bodies. We imagine there's a
busy, busy brain up there, like

neurons and synaptic pathways
and like a huge computer firing

and things happening, and it's
so busy, and you're just going

to walk over to the elevator
that's there on the wall, and

you're going to go inside of it,
the doors open and they shut,

and it's really quiet. You just
feel the quiet that is inside

you. And then that elevator,
you're going to press it to the

fourth floor, and it's slowly
going to start just moving down.

You feel it physically moving
yourself, little mini you, and a

little mini elevator, little you
just beginning to slide down

through third eye. You can
almost feel it in the middle of

your head coming down where your
nose would be back there, down

into your back of your mouth.
And you're feeling yourself

dropping down through your
throat. And everybody can be

feeling it. And as you're doing
it, you're feeling your hands

relax. You can either keep them
at your chest or just drop them

whatever feels comfortable.
You're feeling your shoulders

really releasing, and all the
tension in your arms, and you're

just dropping right down into
your breath. And when the

elevator doors open, there is
the most magical, Sacred Garden,

the most beautiful green garden,
the most beautiful flowers,

exotic, and the ones that you
your most favorite, and they're

everywhere, and the most
beautiful scents and aromas and

anything that's there that's
beautiful, that you love, is

there in the garden with you.
Somehow I feel like there's even

little fairies and a godmother,
like a fairy godmother, she's in

there. She's like, I am here.
I'm your godmother. I'm inside

you. I love you.

Unknown: I'm here with you.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: And
down in that place, you look

over and you see a big wooden
cabinet there in the garden, and

it seems out of place, but there
it is, and it's wooden and it's

huge. And you walk over to it,
because you know it's yours.

It's in your garden. You notice
there's a padlock on the outside

doors. And you reach your hand
in to your pocket, and you find

a key, and you pull it out. And
then you have to actually ask

yourself, are you ready to slide
the key into that padlock and

open up the cabinet doors and
see what's behind there?

Unknown: And if you are, we're

Crystal Andrus Morissette: going
to put the padlock the key in.

And if you're not, just ask
yourself, Are you too afraid to

open that door and what comes up
for you? Candace, um,

Unknown: panic, terror, fear,
like,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so
we're gonna just leave that

cabinet for a minute, and we're
gonna leave that door closed,

and we're just gonna stay in
your garden, and we're gonna

stay in this place because it's
safe in here. There is you are

so safe in this place, and it is
just filled with everything you

could ever want. And there in
the garden, there is a bench.

You're going to walk over to the
bench and just know this place

is sacred. Nothing can get you
here, nothing can hurt you here.

It is pure love when you sit
down on the bench, just there to

your side, like a kind of
magical little experience,

somebody that you really care
about just joins you and sits

beside you and holds your hand.
Let yourself breathe into that,

and she holds your hand, and she
tells you how much she loves

you, or he was ever there with
you. You breathe into it, and

she gives you a big hug, and she
tells you how much she loves you

breathe into it and that you're
so supported and taken care of.

And as you let go, she tells you
that over there in that cabinet

is nothing to be afraid of, and
she's going to go with you,

because behind the cabinet is
the most beautiful, big beating

heart,

Unknown: and it's yours.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: It's
the most beautiful heart that's

filled with so much love that's
just been scared of being hurt

and you had to put your heart in
that big cabinet a long time ago

to stay safe. What comes up for
you? Candace, can you breathe

into it? Can you feel yourself?
Just talk through it. What's

What's there for you right now?

Unknown: Well, the bench, like
as soon as you said there was a

bench,

even before you said that, you
know, there would be somebody

there, like it was my
grandmother, and, Yeah, she my

nickname to her was Miss Daisy.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: There's
daisies everywhere, by the way,

all in your garden, so many
daisies everywhere.

Unknown: And she was like, I
just yeah, she was there, and I

just miss her, and he

Crystal Andrus Morissette: loves
you. She's around you every day.

She's around you every single
day. She's more around you now

than she's ever been in your
whole life. And when she was

alive, she's more around you now
than when she was alive. She's

cheering for you. Her mother's
cheering for you. Her mother's

cheering for you. Your great,
great great grandmother's

cheering for you. They're all
standing, holding space, loving

you, supporting you there. They
know who you are. They know how

important you are. They don't
want you to forget how important

you are and how much you matter.

Unknown: Breathe that in

Crystal Andrus Morissette: feel
them all come there into your

Sacred Garden, they just all
suddenly, you are just

surrounded by a whole bunch of
women, and they are hugging you

like a big bear hug. Feel them
all around you.

And then they want to ask you if
together with safety and love,

you feel safe enough with them,
with you, to open the cabinet up

and just let your heart be open,
just even for the next five

minutes. You feel like you could
do that. We're all going to go

over together. Can I come in
your garden? Kevin, come. Went

in the garden too. I'm with you.
I'm holding your hand on the

other side, and your grandma's
on the one side. Okay, where are

the keys? They're in your
pocket. We're going to get over

to that cabinet. You're going to
let go of my hand, put your hand

in your pocket. You're going to
put the key in the padlock and

slowly turn it. Take it off, put
it down, take a big breath. This

is gonna feel good. It's gonna
feel really good. We're gonna

open the doors of the cabinet,

Unknown: breathe deeper than

Crystal Andrus Morissette: you've
been able to breathe in a while,

and let all that love in. There
is so much love inside of you,

so much happiness inside of you
that's always been yours waiting

for you. That beautiful heart of
yours is connected to an

energetic cord that's just up
above you, and it's this

omnipotent ocean of Holy Water,
pure divine healing. Talk about

chronic pain. You let that water
wash down in over you, and

there's a little faucet on your
heart. Who knew? And the faucets

just been closed. So now we're
just going to turn the faucet

and drip, drip, drip. Start
letting that water, that

omnipotent ocean of healing,
holy anointing, Love Light, just

start to drip down into your
garden. It can never drown you.

It's just like light, and it's
so anointing, and let it begin

to wash into your space and fill
your garden with light, so much

light. It feels so beautiful.
Breathe it in. And everyone's

shining. Everyone's feeling more
relaxed and surrendering and

letting go. And that white
light, that holy water, just

begins to wash, just like that
shower that Sharon talked about,

it's just beginning to release
and rinse

Unknown: away all the pain,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: all
the way down your arms, all the

way into your fingers, and that
Holy Water is dripping out the

end of your fingertips, filling
you and rinsing down through

your body,

Unknown: into your hips,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: your
whole pelvic floor, your inner

thighs, rinsing all around your
entire pelvic area, cleansing

Unknown: your whole womb,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: uterus,
ovaries, cleansing, releasing,

taking back all your power. It's
your body. Nobody gets to be in

there, but you and anyone you
choose to let it know. So with

each breath, you inhale all that
bright light, and you just blow

it out down your feet. Blow
everything down your legs. Blow

everything just down. Let it
rinse down into the ground. Let

everything rinse. And now you're
just feeling like your whole

body, the exterior, almost like
you have an energetic just a

bubble around you that's healing
and just anointing you and

rinsing everything away from
your energetic aura too,

everything around you. You're
just being cleansed with white

light that's so healing, so so
peaceful, reminding you of who

you really are, asking you to
let go of what's not yours.

You've been holding this stuff
way too long, while your

grandmother's asking you to let
it go. She's actually saying, If

you only knew, if you only knew
how loved you are, you would

just never, ever let this
thought enter your brain again.

If you knew how cherished you
are, how important you are, how

much your life matters, you have
important work here to do no

pressure,

Unknown: but you do,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
everything you felt a million

other women feel, and every word
you speak will be anointing to

their soul, and they will find
you when you're ready to be

seen, when you feel safe, to
really show up. So let go of

anything that's stopping you
from feeling safe, and let's

just travel around your body.
Now and ask it if there's any

places inside your body that
feel heavy, hurting, trapped,

stuck, stagnant, needing your
attention right now. And there

might be a few, but let's just
go to one, the one that's the

loudest.

Unknown: Kind of like, it's all
connected. So it's like here all

the way to the back of my
shoulder.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Let's
go right into that area. Let's

go right into your neck, your
shoulder, your jaw. It has been

demanding your attention for a
while, and we can't ignore it,

just like you can't be ignored.
Just like little girl Candace

couldn't be ignored. She has a
voice in there. She has so much

to say. I almost feel like I see
a little version of you

somewhere in there, like a
little girl that's like wanting

to scream and yell and wants to
be heard and is so frustrated

and angry. See if you can feel
what that part of your body has

been like, begging to say,
begging for you to acknowledge,

what is your body? What does it
feel like in that spot?

Unknown: Um, like,

you know, it's,

it's so it, it's so interesting.
Like, like the you were on my

left side, but like my grandma
was on my right side and like,

that's where this is kind of
happening. And like, holding my

hand and, and it's like, heavy.
It's like a burden. It's like,

that's what it feels like. It
just feels like heavy burden.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Have
you been holding on to stuff for

way too long? You don't need to
hold anymore like it's just time

to let it go. Just

What's it saying? What's it
what's coming up for you? Stay

with it.

Unknown: I guess it's,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
guess it's breathe into it. It's

Unknown: It's okay,

it's, it's, it's hard to
formulate the words,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: let's
stay with the feeling. What is

the feeling that's in there? If
you could just describe the

sensation, don't even give it
words yet, like, just, is it

blocked, stuck, racing, moving,
locked, fierce, tight, gripping.

What's the actual body feeling

Unknown: heavy and clenched
like, like, contracting where

it's it's kind of like,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: okay,
yeah, let's breathe into it.

Let's stay with it. Your body
doesn't want to let go, yet.

Your body's saying, Oh no, no,
no no. We're not just quite

ready to just let that go. We
got stuff here. We've gotta, we

gotta acknowledge so we're gonna
stay in that stock that heavy.

And if you could ask that stuck
heavy, if it were emotion, if it

were an emotion, if you could
give it an emotion, what would

it be called? Is it anger? Is it
sorrow? Is it shame? Is it

sadness? Is it fear? What do you
feel comes out for you.

Unknown: I want to say like, I
want to say fear, but I think

it's grief.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Stay
with it. It's a lot of heavy

sadness. It's a lot of heavy
sadness in there, and it doesn't

want to just dissipate without
shining light on the sadness and

the should have beens and the
could have beens and the auto

bins, there's a lot of should
have beens and a lot of could

have beens and a lot of Otto
bins. And maybe that part of you

really needs a voice right now.
And maybe your body's saying,

No, we're not just gonna
spiritually bypass this and let

it. All out. We're gonna, we're
gonna stay here for a little

bit. We got, we got some work to
do. We have a job to do now.

Your body feels like it's
grieving.

Unknown: Who is it connected to?

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Who's
the first person that just comes

in there and says, Yeah, I'm
still here. Me. It's connected

to you, and who

Unknown: I get it.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: How
long have you been feeling this

feeling inside you? How long has
this been there?

How long does it go back? How
far does it go back? Um,

Unknown: yeah, like they're
like, there's the it's so far

back. Like, there, if that makes
sense, like it's yes,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so
yes, oh my god, I'm just feeling

like generational trauma. I'm
just who I just got hit with.

Like, wow, this goes so far
back. You're literally like, I

am here like a warrior to break
the chains of like five

generations. I don't know if
that resonates with you, but

like you have you are breaking
chains for like, five

generations,

Unknown: my son is with me,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
what's happening there?

Unknown: We're holding hands.
Yes, it's on my right side. Yes.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: He's
saying, take my hand now, Mom, I

Unknown: yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: just
breathing into that Candice,

let's bring ourselves back to
your heart, where that tap water

that faucet, and now we're just
going to redirect the energy

from there, that light, loving,
anointing, healing energy, just

for today. Bring it up just for
today, and wrap that whole

hurting area in your neck and
jaw and shoulders, wrap it like

a warm blanket with love. It has
been denied for generations

women who couldn't speak their
truth, generations of women who

were ignored and invisible, and
wrap it all in so much love,

like a big blanket of love,
holding it, honoring it.

Unknown: How does that feel?
Later,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: keep
holding it. We're not going to

run from it. We're going to stay
with it. Candace, I would love

to be able to also support you
with a one on one coaching call.

You're also part of Mac, and I
know we have some calls, I would

love to stay with you, and over
the next week, stay with this

and do a little deeper coaching
with you on this. And let's not

run from this, breathe into
this. Stay with this. I feel

like your body is like saying
this is deep, it's heavy, it's

layered. It's not going to feel
just great enough, enough finger

snap. It's going to take some
digging out. We're going to be

digging some graves. We're going
to be writing some letters.

We're going to be burning some
letters and digging some graves

and burying them, and it's going
to take a little bit of time,

and we're going to it's going to
take some time to connect your

your mind and your body
breathing into this Ken is

amazed by you. Breathe into
this. Just breathe. Just keep

breathing.

How do you feel about writing
yourself a letter of just what

is coming up for you, and maybe
it's a letter to your

grandmother to start with just
letting you and her talk again

on paper, I think you really
need to be held and supported

and loved before you're going to
go deep and dig out stuff. I

just think you really need to be
loved. Loved, supported,

surrounded by beautiful,
feminine energy, that you don't

need to, that you're going to
feel so safe, and nothing has to

be rushed. And just little bit
by little bit, as you feel safer

and safer, you'll just take out
a little bit more, and we'll

leave a little bit more at the
curb. And every week we'll take

a little garbage out, we'll
leave a little more garbage at

the curb for the garbage man to
take away. And it's not going to

happen in one thing. It's going
to happen as your body's ready.

And this was an amazing first
start. I'm in awe of your

willingness to go there and be
there and honor yourself.

You're, you're, you're a true
teacher, because you let

yourself feel it, breathing into
that and thanking your body for

letting you go there today, your
body so wants to let go. Yeah,

your heart is so hurt and it's
so afraid

Unknown: to let go.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: There's
also protection and not letting

go right? Like, there's also
that feeling of like, then what

if I let go? Like, there's a
there's fierce protection in the

wooden cabinet and the padlock
and not even finding the key.

But what an amazing breakthrough
to see you go from, no, I'm not

going in that cabinet. I felt
your fear. It was real. I could

feel terrified. Fear to like, go
anywhere outside, letting

anybody in. The idea that that
cabinet door could open and it

could be a portal to some other
world. I could feel you were

like, No, nope, not opening
anything in my being to be a

portal to anything. The only
portal that your heart is open

to right now that works, we're
making sure, is that ocean of

love. We can call it heaven,
where your grandmother is, where

she's actually here with you
around you, but that's your

gateway that just allows you to
know, I have this one place deep

inside of me, and that one place
deep inside of me is connected

to this divine, omnipotent
energy, and you have to decide

if you want to open yourself up
to it. When you don't feel safe,

you close it off, and each day
that you let yourself just go

there and open the cabinet out,
and then maybe one day, we'll

just take the cabinet right off,
and we'll have a bonfire with

it, and we'll burn it, and you
won't even ever need it again.

And then we'll take the key and
we'll bury it in the bonfire.

We'll be like bye bye cabinet. I
am an open beating heart that's

so ready to receive love,
because that's what that is.

It's really you give so much
love, but I don't know that you

know yet how to let yourself
receive love. I

Unknown: Yeah, yeah, I don't

Yeah. I definitely don't think I
know Yeah, yeah, with, with, by

myself, I guess is, is, is kind
of what's coming to me like,

unless I have Miss Daisy with
me.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Yeah,
it's yeah, love that you just

said that. So we're going to
keep Miss Daisy with you,

because Miss Daisy is you. You
are Miss Daisy like why don't we

write a letter to Miss Daisy?
Let's find Miss Daisy again.

Let's find sweet little Candice
running around in the daisies

when her grandmother was still
alive. Do you remember that

time?

Unknown: Oh, yeah, like, yeah.
It's, yeah, it's, it's, it's

interesting. It's, it's been a
it's, it's been a long time

since I've sat on the couch with
her. Like, not, not physically,

but like, yeah, sitting with her
and calling her in and just,

yeah, we just have coffee. Can
we just sit

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Yeah?
So let's do that this week.

Let's not rush anything. You
know, healing can happen. It

really can't like you. Go, oh,
but you also cannot force that,

and it has to be when you feel
safe enough to, like, let a

little bit more happen, and your
brain is so brilliant it's going

to keep you safe and protected,
even if it means it won't let

you be happy. Yeah, it cares
more about you being safe than

being happy. The brain does not
care about happiness at all. The

heart cares about happiness.
Your heart's like, Please,

please. Can we just do it? Pick
the cabinet off, we'll be happy.

But your brain is saying, Are
you crazy? We're not taking the

cabinet off. That could leave us
vulnerable, and that could make

we could be we could be opening
ourselves up to be hurt, and

that's also what's getting in
the way in your business,

though, because if you're hiding
behind a cabinet, people can't

see you, even if you're right in
front of them jumping around

naked, right? They would just be
like, I can't, you can't, I

can't, energet, I can't see you
until you are ready to be seen.

So we're going to take the
cabinet off together, little bit

by little bit and and then once
it's gone, it's gone. It's not

like, you have to be like, Oh,
forever. I have to do this work.

You're gonna do it until there's
something in you goes, I think,

I think I'm I think I'm ready.
And then you'll always have it

close by anytime you need it.
And then maybe we'll never burn

it like, I don't think I ever
want to burn mine either,

although there are times that
I've, like, cut it down into

pieces and get it ready for
kindling wood, and then I like,

build it back together again. So
I understand, but want you to

know I'm sending you a great,
big, huge sister hug. Love from

my heart to yours all of us. Let
yourself receive that. Breathe

it in like, imagine right now
I'm there with you. I'm hugging

you. I'm literally going
Candace, I got you and you've

got me, we got each other.
You're not alone. You've been

doing this thing for too long
alone, and there are so many of

us just like you, all over the
world, and we're finding each

other. You're

going to be able to come back
next Thursday, and I will see

you Tuesday at our master
empowerment coach certification

class. Let's take a big, deep
breath in. I'm going to I'm

going to break, I'm going to put
a little spray. It's got you,

can you feel it? I'm spraying
you. Y'all feeling it. Okay?

We're all just having a little
shower of like, great. There we

go. Candace, sprayed all over
you, shining down on you, just,

oh, falling down on you.
Candace, I know that sometimes

we always just want to be like,
Oh, that was easy. That was

great. How are you feeling right
now? I know it was a lot. How

are you feeling? Um,

Unknown: um, lots of things are
kind of coming up like I at this

moment, I feel complete. I feel
I I feel seen. I feel complete.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: And
what a word, yeah, and it's

Unknown: and grateful, grateful
on so many levels, like grateful

for grateful for being able to
be here, grateful and thankful

to myself for raising my hand,
knowing,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: letting
you matter

Unknown: like, and knowing full
well that this is online, right,

like, and, you know, like, just
kind of letting myself just go

there and, yeah, like just, and
it's another layer. And

my gosh golly walkers like
allowing myself to honor this

layer, because this is, like, a
big layer, good

Crystal Andrus Morissette: for
you. No shame in your game.

Sometimes we get off and, like,
Sharon was, like, it was huge.

And it's like, I've done this
where I go, Oh, my God, what did

I just do publicly? Like, and
then I have, like, something I

call shares remorse that I've
had in my past from like, maybe

I should. And then I'm always
like, Wow, I can't believe how

it helped other people, and in
the end, it always helped me. So

just keep telling yourself you
are amazing. We all are like,

circling you with like, you're
amazing and you're doing it, and

we're in awe of you. And this is
the real work. Work. This is the

real work that it takes to do
this kind of work. And so thank

you for letting yourself do it.
We're standing with you. You're

not alone. We'll do some
coaching calls. You've got your

mech sisters, we've got me on
Tuesday, and I'm going to see

you back here next Thursday.
Thank you. Thank you. Oh, that

was amazing. Candace, breathe
that in. Girl, breathe it in.

It's just starting. You just
tell yourself, this is just the

beginning. This isn't just one
moment. This is just the

beginning. Who? Let's all take a
big, beautiful breath, because

whether you were in the left
seat today or listening quietly

in the background, this moment
was for you too. It was for me,

like we are all in a season of
rising and rising doesn't always

look pretty, it doesn't always
feel pretty. Sometimes it's

messy and it's emotional and
it's raw, but it's real and it's

authentic, and that's where your
power lies, in that quiet

stillness of telling yourself
the truth. So here's what I want

to ask you, to ask yourself this
week, what am I pretending not

to know what would happen if I
stopped waiting

Unknown: and just began

Crystal Andrus Morissette: you
don't need permission. You don't

need to be perfect. You just
need to say yes to yourself, to

your truth and to your next
step. Sometimes you just have to

ask yourself, what would courage
have me do? So if you're ready

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