Simply...Woman!

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Fear
is running wild. It's infecting

conversations. It's dividing
families. It's turning women

against each other. I know
because I talk to women every

single day in my coaching
practice with my courses through

my schools, and women who are
strong and loving and capable

and empowered, who still feel
like the world is splitting at

the seam. Politics, war, social
division, family tension. It's

everywhere. And here's the
thing, most people don't even

realize it's happening. Like
they think their fear is the

truth, when, in reality, it's a
trap. You don't have to play the

fear game, because here's the
truth that most women don't

realize: You don't fight
darkness. You turn up your inner

light, and you shine your light
on it. You shine your light into

the shadows, and that's how we
eradicate darkness. In fact, I

always think, if we're a bright
light and we give our power

away, that means we're giving
our light away, where's it going

okay, I know I'm being dramatic,
but

Unknown: it's going there. Fear

Crystal Andrus Morissette: is
energy, and energy is never

lost. Albert Einstein said it's
only transferred. So we are

together today. Are going to
learn how to turn alchemize,

turn fear into inspired action.
Today we're shifting out of fear

and into real, grounded,
unstoppable power. This is

Simply...Woman, and it starts
now.

Welcome to Simply...Woman. I'm
Crystal Andrus Morissette, and

today we're talking about the
biggest power leaks women face:

Energy Hijacking. Haven't you
noticed how easy it is to get

sucked into drama, to feel
emotionally drained by division?

Just watch the news for 10
minutes. My God, it can spin you

into a tornado where we waste
hours thinking about things that

are completely out of our
control, and we're not crazy.

You're not crazy, and you're not
powerless. Today we're talking

about mastering your energy in a
fear-driven world, because when

you're truly empowered, you
don't get pulled into outrage

cycles. I've called it a name:
Outrage Cycle. For those of you

that watched last week, we're
going to call it the Outrage

Cycle. You don't let fear
dictate your choices. You don't

waste energy trying to control
what's outside of you, which is

everything other than you. Get
that through your head. Like me

too. Everything outside of you
-- you have no control over.

Instead, you learn how to feel
the feelings going on inside of

you without becoming the
emotional frequency. You feel

feelings. You witness them, you
even learn to accept them; you

allow them, you learn from them,
and you release them and rise

back up. That's what we're going
to do. You recognize when fear

is trying to control you, and
you stop it, and you lead with

Woman Energy. This is strong,
steady, unshakable, and today,

we're not just talking about it,
we're doing it. Listen, ladies,

if wanting it was enough, we'd
all have everything we wanted.

Like we... How many times do I
hear women say, I want to write

a book and I want to lose weight
and I want to do this and I want

to do that, and I want wanting
is the the beginning point of

all dreams. But wanting is not
enough, because if we're not

careful, it's very, very easy
for us to just let that fear

overtake us and talk us out of
all of our dreams. So first

things first, we're going to go
back to Angelika, who was on

last week. We had such an
amazing conversation with

Angelika, we're going to check
in and see what's shifted since

her breakthrough. Because real
transformation happens in the

days that follow, in the weeks
that follow. And then we have a

brand new guest today that's
stepping into the love seat, and

I'm super excited about talking
with Leslie from Mexico. She's

going to be coming forward to
talk about something that a lot

of women have on their mind, and
we're going to dive into that

next. But before we do, let's
get ready and let's head over

and see how Angelica is doing
today. Angelika, so let's talk.

How are you what's been going on
since we talked? Week Ago. Uh,

hi, Crystal, how are you? I am
so good. How are you good? Good,

good. Um, yeah, definitely,

Angelika: I feel much, much much
better, much calmer, much more

in my body. I had time like to,
you know, to relax, the time

that I didn't have because I
feel like, the way, how I did

it. I felt like, you know what
it is I was in the box, meaning,

like, every day the same thing,
only the highlight of my life

was like talking to women. That
was like, the main thing that,

like, light me up, because then,
like, after work, I have to come

back and I'm coming to full time
job here in my house.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Yeah,
so getting away to your job gave

you joy. Getting away to your
job gave you some thing that

made you feel really good. And
then when you got back home, you

realize that you're not having
enough joy in your day to day

life at home. No, no. My

Angelika: point is, like, how
you call that? When I was, you

know, like, when I was, like,
working, it was all the time. So

it's kind of like the highlight
of the of the day at work,

which, like, I love it. It's
like talking to women while I'm

serving them, yeah, because it's
an exchange of, like, you know,

they say, but you know what?
What I realize, like, having

that time, like, free right now
I realized, like, I want to have

that free time schedule for me.
I want to have a time if I want

to go for an hour to the to the
spa or to have a lunch, like,

that's like, that's amazing. I
just don't want to be in a

square, you know, like a
pudding, wow.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: So am
I hearing you say last week you

were crying because you were
feeling like, I'm not happy if

I'm not talking with women. And
I said to you, I think you're

running on cortisol and you're
exhausted, and I think this time

off could be like a beautiful
opportunity for you to relax and

get to know yourself again, and
what really lights you up, and

you're going to be starting a
new job soon, and this is your

time to, like, slow down, and
there's a shift that happens. So

now I'm hearing you say I didn't
realize that being that busy, I

do love talking to women, but
there was no time for me in

there to have. So yeah, I'm
talking to women all day, and

I'm talking to women all day,
and I'm thinking, that's the

only thing that lights me up.
Because other than that, I come

home and work, and there was no
space in your life for any joy,

creativity, go to the spa, feel
good about yourself, have

happiness, choosing your own

Angelika: joy. So it was like,
more like a robotic and I don't

want to, I don't want to model
that to my son, because I feel

like, you know, like, I don't
want to transfer that, because

that's very powerful. I want to
be, I want to be a great role

model for him. I want him to be
empowered

Crystal Andrus Morissette: to
see how we women do it, though,

like even her saying, I want to
be happy for my son like I want

to be happy for me. I want to be
happy because I have one life,

and every day that ticks by, if
I'm not happy, that's a travesty

for my soul.

Angelika: Yeah, that this,
that's true. It's just, like,

just the time passes by and and
and, and I'm just excited too,

because at this time, on the
16th, I was able to get the nice

tickets for Lewis house in New
York, which was, like, the great

tickets, and I'm gonna see him.
So

Crystal Andrus Morissette: with
all this time off, you're now

gonna go and enjoy this amazing
experience someone that you've

wanted to see. So this time off
is actually allowing you to see

that there's so many other
possibilities out there other

than just working and home,
that's true. So you're feeling

better? Yeah, I'm feeling much,
much, much better. Thank you. So

glad. I'm so glad that everyone
got to see how how simple a

shift can be, and how it can
when we change the way we look

at things, the things we look at
change. And just like that,

there's been a shift in you. So
anything you want to share

before we head off to our next
guest, where your next steps

are. How are you feeling about
things now? Where are you moving

forward? How are you feeling,

Angelika: um, I would say for
every woman, just to take their

time, to relax, to feel their
body, what their soul, what

their soul is telling them, and
to give it to their soul,

because that light is just going
to show outside and it's just

going to trickle to every aspect
of their life. Yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
just like that, she already

knows it. It was like she
already knew it. We all know

this stuff. We sometimes just
need someone to help remind us.

So thank you Angelica,

Unknown: Thank you Crystal. And
come on back and see. Soon.

Thank you.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: All
right, I am so happy for

Angelica that she's feeling so
much better. She's so much

calmer. Do you actually feel the
shift where she's just Ah, she's

leaned into her woman energy,
which is a very confident, calm,

curious part of every single one
of us. And I find that so

incredible, and this is what
happens when you stay in the

work when you choose to keep
showing up for yourself. Okay,

so now let's make a shift into
today's conversation. Our next

guest is Leslie from Mexico, and
she's here because she has

something that she wants to talk
about as well today and get some

coaching around. I know it can
feel like we're being pulled

into the world's chaos, and
let's be real. This is something

we all face. So Leslie, I don't
know exactly what's going to

unfold today, but I do know
this, you're in the right place.

Let's dive in. How are you

Unknown: good? And you Crystal,
I'm so happy to be here.

Oh, Leslie,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so
happy that you're here. Leslie's

from Mexico, and Leslie is one
of my students you graduated

from our personal

Unknown: empowerment. I did yes
back in pandemia, yes, down

Crystal Andrus Morissette: during
the pandemic, and then every so

often, we see each other on
social media. You reached out to

me a couple of weeks ago, or
maybe I did and said we should

do a retreat in Mexico, and just
like that, Leslie and I jumped

on a call, and now we're
starting to dream a dream. And

that's how easy it is. Ladies
like dream a dream, and network

and put things out there and
like you can throw the spaghetti

against the wall and see what
sticks. And when something

sticks, you go with it. So
Leslie, we don't need to talk

about the retreat today, unless
that's where you want to get

some coaching. But I think this
would be a great opportunity for

us to just dive into you and
what's going on for you, and

and, and how can I support you?
Yeah, what?

Unknown: Let me tell you a
little bit about my my story.

And I was working for corporate
for a long time ago. I mean, for

18 years, um, then the day
decided that I was not longer

needed. That was in April last,
last year. And I say, Yes,

that's what I wanted. That's
what I wanted. That the universe

is leading me to that point,
everything was okay. But then,

like, three or four weeks ago, I
realized that I was feeling

well. I didn't realize it. I
just know that I had, like, low

energy until last call with
Angelica. I performed the

exercise, and then I noticed,
and everything came into my body

that I didn't grieve my last of
18 years for working for a

corporate um, on on one side, I
was just doing like, Yeah, I'm

positive because I'm a positive
person. I'm the one that get

things done and say, well,
everything, blah, blah, so, but

I've focused on the positive
thing and leave or left the the

grief thing and that not want to
feel that I was kind of lost,

that maybe not worth it because
I was not working for a

corporate at that time.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Yeah.
So, so let me catch up so you

were let go from a job that you
were with for 18 years. By the

way, ladies, as a coach, I
highly recommend that you keep

notes. I'm talking now to the
coaches, keep notes. Just jot

things down. And at the very
beginning of a call, you do want

to say something like, let me
reflect back to what I'm

hearing, just so that you do
make sure that you're on track

with what's happening, and then
they can stop you and go,

actually no or yes, and then we
can keep going. So I'm hearing

you say that I worked for a
company for 18 years. A year

ago, I was let go, and

Unknown: I'm hearing that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it
was really hard. It was

emotionally hard for you, but
because you're a positive

person, and so many of us are
taught like negative emotions

create negative things in the
body, and if you're negative,

it'll do negative things through
your life. So we do everything

in our power to avoid anything
negative. And then last week,

you came on, and you've been
experiencing a lot of low

energy, and in the conversation,
this is what I love about

listening to someone else's
coaching call how powerful it

is. In the conversation, you
were listening to me and

Angelique, or Angelique and I,
and we did a little meditation,

and it brought you into your
body, and in that moment, you

realized, wow, I've been
spiritually bypassing my own

grief. I've been so trying to
get myself up to a happy place

that I just thought that I
could, like, sprinkle sugar all

over my pain, and we just sugar
coat it, and it would just go

away. And what I think we all.
At a certain point

Unknown: is that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: what's
there is there, and learning to

accept what's there is not about
accepting defeat or accepting

pain or residing yourself to
resonate in an energy that

doesn't feel good, but for you
to get anywhere in life, you

would need, let's just use it in
these terms, just to make sense,

a map. So if I was coming to
Mexico, I would actually have to

have the airplane, would have
they'd have to have a map. But

it wouldn't just be, I'm going
to Mexico to get a map, you have

to know where you are, you can't
get somewhere if you want to

drive somewhere. Angelica says
she's going to New York to watch

this amazing experience, but for
her to get directions to drive

there, she actually has to put
in her starting spot. So

everything in life for us to get
to where we want to be, if we

don't know where we're starting,
we can't create an accurate

roadmap. And energy works the
same way. It builds off of each

other, and it can go in
different directions. So if it

didn't make you a bad woman and
it didn't make you a bad

daughter and it didn't make you
a bad mother and it didn't make

you a bad sister or cousin or
auntie or anything. And you

could just put two feet on the
ground right now and just lock

into your body and drop down,
down, down, out of your busy

brain, and just feel yourself
coming into your own center,

into your own place, into your
own body, grounding in yourself,

forgetting about the outside
world, forgetting about anybody

and everything other than you
right now, because this is all

about you, and just letting
yourself drop down, down, down,

down, down into your body, where
you feel your shoulder blades

kind of drive down your back and
your shoulders come down from

your ears. It didn't mean
anything negative about you,

just under the surface, what is
the feeling in your body? It

might be an emotion, but it
might just be an actual physical

feeling, like a racing or a what
do you feel inside? What? What

do you feel if it didn't mean
anything about you

Unknown: and all I'm not sure
how to explain, but I feel like,

like hesitating. I'm not sure if
I move the next to the next

step. I mean, I can do it. I
know. Sometimes I know that I

can do it, but some other times
I don't. I don't know. Maybe I

don't feel like worth it. You
know that, yeah, like, you know

that we are trying to work on
that project with you. And

sometimes I That's my
questioning. Is she going to

reply back to me? Is Who am I to
be part of her world, or I'm

talking to a different woman
that I'm trying to connect for

this the same project. It's girl
that works for Mayan

civilization, culture, etc. And
same thing happened to me

earlier this morning, and I say,
why? If it doesn't reply to me,

who am I? Am that important to
the world, to to be there? So

that's that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: whole
running series, that thing, who

am I? Who am I? Yeah, I feel
that, then you could make it

like a feeling it. Does it feel
like there's a sense of

unworthiness? Is it a sense of

Unknown: it is a sense of, I'm
not sure who's the new Leslie

right now that it's, it's out of
the corporate world. Yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it's
like a loss of identity.

Exactly. Yeah. Who am I? Like, I
had this identity. I knew who I

was. I knew where I went every
day. I knew what I was doing,

and I don't know what I'm doing
right now. And do I keep

following up with me was that
what entrepreneurs do? Yes, by

the way, Leslie, yeah, you the
wheel gets oiled like how many

times you say, See me sending
out an email that Mac is

starting in March 25 do I send
it once and then go, they didn't

buy so I don't want to bug them.
You send it every day. You keep

scratching. You keep you keep
that's what you do in life.

That's what you have to do when
you have dreams. So, but let's

not worry about the strategy
yet, because in empowerment

coaching, strategy always comes
after emotions, so strategy will

come second. So I would say,
yes, you should. However, that's

not that's we're not there yet.
So first we're going to stay

with the feeling. And the
feeling is a feeling that's

underneath it. If let's do this
together, because we really

didn't really drop into your
body the way I normally do,

let's put two feet on the floor,
and let's really, all of us feel

yourself Connect. Deep in your
body. Leslie, I want to do a

process with you that I haven't
done on a podcast yet, and I

haven't done with many people,
and it's brand new. So I want to

try something with you as you're
in your body. I'm, I've, I

wonder if you would be
comfortable repeating something

after me. And we're going to go
through a series of statements,

and we're going to go through it
twice the whole series. So I'm

going to say one sentence,
you're going to repeat I'm going

to say another sentence, you're
going to repeat it. And as I'm

saying, these, every one of you
can do this, by the way,

everyone listening. You can
actually say it, either out

loud, if you're muted, which you
are, or in your own head if

there's someone around, but it
works better if you say it out

loud, if you're in a room right
now, and you can just say this

out loud. So Leslie and I are
going to do this. We're going to

you're going to keep your eyes
closed, and you're just going to

feel this in your body. If you
want to open your eyes, you're

allowed, by the way. I surrender
my shame. Surrender my chain. I

surrender my guilt. I surrender
my guilt. I surrender my blame.

Unknown: I surrender my blame.
Oh, there you go.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
surrender my grief. I surrender

my grief. I surrender my fear. I
surrender my fear, I surrender

my desires. I surrender my
desires. I surrender my anger. I

surrender my anger, I surrender
my pride. I surrender my pride,

I surrender the ego and the
identity that I thought I had to

be.

Unknown: I surrender the ego and
the identity I

Crystal Andrus Morissette: thought
I had to be, thought I had to

be, and I step into the courage
to be my real self.

Unknown: And I step into the
courage to be my real

Crystal Andrus Morissette: self,
and my real self is so joyous

and happy, and my

Unknown: real self it's so
joyous and happy.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
surrender the shame, I surrender

the shame, I surrender my guilt.
I surrender my guilt, I

surrender my helplessness. I
surrender my helplessness. I

surrender my blame. I surrender
my blame. I surrender my grief.

I surrender my grief. I
surrender my fear. I surrender

my fear, I surrender my desires.
I surrender my desires. I

surrender my anger, I surrender
my anger, I surrender my pride,

I surrender my pride, I
surrender my ego and the

identity I thought I had to be.

Unknown: I surrender my ego and
my identity that I thought that

I have to be

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and I
step into the courage to be my

real self,

Unknown: and I step to the
courage to be my real

Crystal Andrus Morissette: self,
and my real self is so joyous

and happy, and my real

Unknown: self is so joyous and
happy, yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
just breathing that in and

coming back to the room. I feel
it too. Yeah, it's real. Yeah,

it's really, really real, like
my whole body's covered in

goosebumps, and I felt
something. What do you feel?

Tell me what you feel. Well,

Unknown: I felt when I had to
said to blame, I, at some point,

I felt that I it was my fault to
be released from that job and

that I did not perform the way
that I supposed to be or

perform. And same thing with the
identity. So I think that, well,

I felt like I needed to be
someone, or same person that I

was when I had that job. So
yeah,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so I
find that the body speaks to us

and it's so dramatic, and
sometimes just saying things out

loud. The reason that we do it,
and I will put things in a

sequence, is because often one
word or one feeling feels

different than saying all the
other ones. And often, the

reason that it feels different
than the other ones is because

it's our shadow, and it's the
part underneath that we haven't

and we're not comfortable with
yet. It's a. Feeling we don't

want to accept, and so we'll do
everything other than saying, I

accept and letting ourselves
really feel all the feelings

that that brought up for you. So
here's what's interesting. You

had said, I think it's grieving,
and grieving falls just under

blame. So it makes so perfect
sense that you intuitively knew

it last week that you have not
grieved the loss of the

identity, grieved the loss of
being let go. There is a feeling

when someone is removed from a
job, especially when you're let

go without cause and you're just
redundant, you're just made

redundant. Um, it can be such a
hit to our self esteem and our

identity and our ego, it's even
like Angelica last week saying

crying like I don't want to do
it myself. If I'm not helping

women, who am I like? Am I alone
enough? How would I find

happiness if I'm not helping
people? Okay, I'm going to do it

for my son. We don't do it for
ourselves, and we weren't even

taught that it's not only
acceptable, it's necessary to do

it for ourselves, but we can't
get up there where we bust

through that pride loop, where
the ego is so like, gotta stay

and so if we could just stay now
with the blame and let ourselves

just move into it, and we could
feel where you feel that in your

body, like that's a yucky
Feeling. Tell me about all that

blame and the helplessness and
the hopelessness and the feeling

the loss. There's a lot of loss
in there that's coming up for

you. Tell me about that feeling
inside you and what's coming up

for you. Well,

Unknown: I feel like there is
this pot that I'm not certain

that I can fill out again, like
you said, there is like this

emptiness that sometimes I know
that I'm worth it, that I know

that what I can do, I mean that
kind of professional side. I I

know that I covered and I know
what I'm capable of. But the

thing is that I I don't
sometimes I don't feel that I

will be able to fulfill all the
joy that I had when I was really

happy on that job. That's my
thing. Oh, I got it.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Oh,
she just had her own little

breakthrough laugh

Unknown: of truth. Can you fill
us all in? Tell us what just

happened? Yeah. Do you think of
that laugh of truth

Crystal Andrus Morissette: like
now you've all heard me. It's

like your whole body tells you
everything your body laughs when

all of a sudden you go, Oh my
God, is can you believe the

belief that I've carried this
whole time that I won't be able

to find

Unknown: joy if I don't work in
that corporate job Exactly?

Oh god, thank you. Thank you so
much. Krista,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: the
silliest thing that I've been

telling myself and that my worth
had anything to do really with

that job, is that you brought
joy, and you'll bring that joy

everywhere you go with
everything you do. And what if

that job? What if that was the
universe giving you the kick,

because you wouldn't have left
on your own, and you have so

much bigger fish to fry and
dreams to make, and joy to make

and things to have. And had you
not lost your job, you might

still be there, and we wouldn't
be doing this, and I wouldn't be

coming to Mexico, and we
wouldn't be putting on the

retreat, and then there wouldn't
be more joy to have and things

to do so but it's easy to say
that to somebody, just look on

the bright side. You had a quick
yours was very poppable. So in

truth, not everyone has that.
Not everyone just has a laugh

like, oh my god, that is so
silly. So I accept that I was

carrying a story about who I am
based on that job. I accept that

I made that job mean something
about me. Can you say that

Unknown: I accept that that job?
Well, what's the letter? However

you say

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it. I
accept that I really gave my

power to that job.

Unknown: I accept that I gave my
power to that job and my

identity. And I know that I'm
powerful, that I'm joyful, that

I can bring happiness to the
world in any other places, in

any other ways. Okay,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: ladies,
do you just see how palpable

energy is like you can't lie.
Energy doesn't lie, and your

body is always going to tell you
the truth about what you feel.

No. Now does that mean our
beliefs are accurate? No,

because if Leslie never had a
coach help her identify the lie,

yeah. Cuz here's the thing,
ladies, anything other than the

courage to be your real self?
Could you actually feel that

just like the energy when she
went, I'm just gonna have the

courage to be my real self, and
my real self is joyous and

happy, and all of a sudden,
tears of truth. We all felt it.

We all just wanted to cry. Yeah,
we all just want to be happy.

That's what our real self wants,
too. So what if we were to go so

be so bold as to say everything,
every feeling under courage is a

lie like I know that's really
bold, and I know that to

somebody that's in grieving and
just lost a child, to say if

you're lying to yourself, you're
not, it's as a normal human

emotion. We have the full range
of emotions, but if you are

always remaining true to
yourself, you would feel the

feeling, oh, I just lost my job,
but you would be buoyant again,

to be like, I know what my real
self has the courage to know

that that would be happening,
and I don't need to lock into

that, and I don't need to tell
none of that's real. It's only

real if I make it real. Now, the
thing about the brain is there's

a lot of layers to the brain.
And what a lot of people don't

know

Unknown: is that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: the
truth has nothing to do with the

truth, the truth to your body
and your brain has to do with

whatever you've done enough
times, whatever you've said

enough times, and that actually
creates a very. It's a very.

It's a very chemical thing
happening every time you think

of thought like, I don't know if
I'm worthy enough. I don't know

what. If I write crystal and she
doesn't write me back, maybe she

doesn't really want maybe I'm
bugging her. Oh, my God, I wrote

another woman and I want it. And
what if? And every time you say

that thing, and you you identify
in that energy, your brain fires

off a neuron, and then it
connects to a receptor site, and

then you have that same thought
enough times it's actually

formed a pathway in your brain.
So the next time you write an

email to someone and you don't
get a response, your brain is a

pattern searching machine that
wants constantly to make life

easier for you, so your brain
instantly juts in and goes,

You're not wanted. Do not send
another email. I'm going to

protect you from being rejected.
You were already rejected a year

ago. Remember that job? Do you
know what that felt like? Do you

know what you've gone through?
You're building back yourself,

dignity, your respect. They're
not respecting you. They're not

even responding you don't want
that. Don't do it. Don't write

another email.

Unknown: But it's not true,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: but
everything in your body is

screaming that it's true, and so
it becomes like a double bind,

do I trust my body? Because it's
telling me this is true. Do I

challenge it? How do we get
ourselves this is why we need

someone to weigh in. This is
what we do as coaches. We get to

weigh in and just bring women
through. It's not therapy. I

don't actually need to talk for
seven hours about then what did

you say, and

Unknown: then what did he say?
And then what did you say, and

then what did he say, and

Crystal Andrus Morissette: how
did that make you feel? Well,

why don't we talk more and more
and more about it and just

reinforce this pathway? Let's
talk about your pain so much and

so long and so repetitively that
your emotional baseline will now

create a frequency that this
becomes your homeostasis. And

then when we try to get you
feeling happier, everything in

your body will feel like it's
going through withdrawal from

sadness, and you'll actually
begin to feel uncomfortable

being happy, because your brain
will step in over it and will

override your happiness to get
you back doing what Angelica

said as like a treadmill. The
brain just wants to run on the

treadmill. And you know what
else Leslie, nobody really,

really fully gets that we all
think the body is requiring all

of our energy. Do you know how
much energy it takes to run the

brain? So your brain is
constantly wanting to conserve

energy? Think less.

Unknown: Please, please don't
think about this. Please don't

think

Crystal Andrus Morissette: just
keep doing the treadmill. You'll

stay safe. You'll stay safe.
You're gonna stay exactly in

this place. So you just had a so
now let's imagine that we could

walk this through, and we have
to be like, Okay, so your brain

just you're, you're, you're
where. Us just how to pull Oh,

that's not true, because what
you just did was actually

something in therapy called
cognitive restructuring, when we

can take a belief and then just
almost start to break it down.

Well, is that for sure? For sure
the truth? How can we for sure

know that's the truth. Can we
find evidence that shows that

this could be wrong? Where do we
find like, we just start and all

of that. For me, it's great.
This is why I'm not a

psychologist, because all of
that is a lot of work. Like, I

don't know why I am the way I
am. Like, I could talk for 10

million years about my
childhood, I don't know that

that would serve me. I'd what I
do know is I can flip the

switch. We could write a letter.
We could honor all that grieving

and the blame, and we could
actually give your blame a

voice. There is a part of you
that has a sense of

helplessness. There's a sense of
helplessness that's happening

inside of you. Would that be
fair to say? Yes, yes. So I want

to help you, make you not feel
bad. I did this process. I just

came up with this process
yesterday, by the self, by

myself, walking with myself,
walking along, going, oh. So I

don't know why. My if I didn't
have quiet time, Angelica, I

would never come up with these
processes. I guarantee you, if I

didn't have time to walk along
and listen to music and then

have a pause and then try
something out, and then go, oh.

So here's what I want to tell
you I did the exact same

process, and when I said the
word, I surrender helplessness,

just like you

Unknown: that didn't feel the
same,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
could say, I surrender anger,

good, poof, that feels good. I
surrender pride and dignity.

Yeah, I don't need to hold on to
that identity, but helplessness

so you have a shadow that is
probably you're the helper, not

the person that gets helped.
You're not You're the person we

just have a breakthrough, yeah,

Unknown: so I'm always the
helper and not the one to be

helped, always in all my
relationships. Yes, there

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it
is. So why is Why is blame

something that you're so
uncomfortable with? I want to

tell you something. It's not
that, it's that you're more

comfortable blaming yourself
than blaming others, and what

would actually set you free
right now is to stop lashing

yourself and blame the idiots at
corporate that fired you. That

would actually be more
empowering for you than for you

to even say to yourself one more
day. Maybe they really didn't

need me. Maybe I really didn't
do my job. Well, maybe I, maybe

it is me. Maybe I'm not good
enough. Maybe I'm not Don't ever

repeat that again. In fact,
let's write everyone a letter

that we need to who we are going
to blame for this, because we're

not blaming you anymore. You're
not allowed to blame yourself

anymore. You know how we move
someone out of out of blame or

helplessness or hopelessness or
apathy? We actually have to

point the finger outside of
ourselves, and not that that's

enlightened, but that's going to
get us out of guilt and shame,

which you were struggling in you
felt almost guilty like you did

something.

Unknown: I know, yeah, and
that's not true. I did

everything that I needed to do,
so

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah,
and I just love that our face

actually did that. I know it's
true. I did blame myself. I did

feel guilty. So how do we shift
the self loathing that we all

struggle with? Leslie,
especially when something

happens and we're shocked
because we just had the carpet

ripped from underneath us. It's
like a partner leaving you. It's

like finding out you've been
cheated on. Losing your job.

It's loss, it's great loss. Yes,
leaving a job is great loss by

choice, so being lose, losing a
job is great loss to the

identity, and it's so hurtful to
the heart and all the parts of

us that make us human, not your
enlightened real self, but the

human part of you, which is an
illusion. And I know that all

gets deep when I say that it's
all an illusion. It's not even

real. Your body is just this
container. You are actually this

energy, the spirit, this
magnificence, all of this big,

beautiful, bright light. So
anytime you tell yourself a

story that's like, I'm not good
enough. You took your big,

beautiful bright light, you turn
the dimmer switch right down,

and then you're going through
life barely being. Able to see

ahead of what's so it's not the
truth. So you gotta turn the

light back up. But the way to do
that is through some different

processes. And one of the best
processes for helping a woman

take back her power is to first
of all ask you, Who do you

blame? Who do you blame for why
you lost your job? Who's the

person at your company that you
blame my Xbox? I love that. So

what's your boss's first name?
Chad. Chad. Chad, you mo faux.

Totally, yes, we hate you. Chad,

Unknown: I do, yeah, okay,
Leslie, Leslie can't even say I

hate you. Chad, like, she can't
even say it. Like, can you say

it? I hate you. Chad, I hate
you. Chad, how does that make

you feel good? You know what I
love about it? Why it makes us

laugh is because we weren't
raised to be able to say, I hate

someone that is not very, very
enlightened. That's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: you
need to be lovely. You need to

love everybody, even the person
who fired you. No, you don't.

But guess what? When you can
tell yourself the truth, you

effortlessly rise back up into
your joyous self where you're

like, Oh, whatever. I don't
really hate Chad, but you have

to give the part of you that's
angry, that lost her job, that

fucked her shit up, that stole
her identity, that who was he to

do that to you after 18 years.
So why do you why do you write

Chad a letter, even though it
seems like it was a long time

ago, but why don't you write,
chat a letter and tell him how

you feel.

Unknown: I will. I will. And I'm
I'm right now, remembering that

lot of words came out when they
fire me and they said, like

there was, I think that's the
sentence that took on me, and

that that's why I'm feeling this
way. That's what I'm thinking.

They told me that I didn't have
the capacity, not capacity, the

aptitude, to perform the job
with which I was performing,

yeah, like I was performing the
like for forever. So it was

like, for me, was insulting, and
I felt like I was dumb, like I

didn't know anything that I
needed to study more or to

become an engineering or
whatever. So I really thought a

lot of things in my mind, that
that I needed to do in order to

stay and I did not stay,
etcetera, etcetera. So yeah,

let's I got it. Let's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: do
another process. You ready?

Yeah, we're going to do another
process. I love processes. I

love processes because in like,
boom, bam, boom, you can just

have like, these massive shifts
where 1000 pounds falls off your

shoulders. So let's do another
process. Hey, um, tell me what

it is about Chad. I don't know.
Like, I actually was going to do

a process, but I don't know if
Chad's really the one. Like, I

think Chad we who else was part
of that. Chad was there someone

else in that meeting.

Unknown: It was, like, a new the
new manager that they hired, and

she was, like, for less than a
year that she told me, I mean,

she was the one telling me that
I was not longer needed. So

okay, so I actually

Crystal Andrus Morissette: going
to jet in here. I love that. We

just want to step further this
bitch,

Unknown: yes, Crystal, like
crystal called the lady in

business, bitch came in here.
You've

Crystal Andrus Morissette: been
there 18 years, and she didn't

like you. Leslie, yeah, it
doesn't like you, yeah, didn't

like her either. There. So
there's some good truths. So the

truth is, I don't like her. She
didn't like me. I've been there

18 years. I thought they'd
choose me over her, and she

ousted me. That's correct. She
getting to the truth. Yeah,

Unknown: totally, totally. I
love it. I know I

love it too. We keep

Crystal Andrus Morissette: digging
deeper. Chad, I don't even want

to write you the letter, because
I actually just think you're a

coward. You let this woman I
know, don't you think I'm a

psychic? I know I do this, and
everybody always goes, How do

you know this? Are you a
psychic?

Unknown: He was so COVID. I
mean, he didn't say anything to

me. He didn't talk to me at all.
Oh, my God,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: so
Chad the coward. So Chad the

coward. Chad the loud. I've been
here 18 years, and you allowed a

new woman to come in here and in
under a year, because her and I

had some personality conflict,
she had the ability to take my

income and how I feed my
children away from me, that

woman had that kind of power,
and I'm angry. And why really

feel so angry inside is that?
Tell me. Tell me what. You

really feel inside.

Unknown: I am amazed that, yeah,
as you just said, she, she took

my power then I actually asked
her,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: that's
the helplessness, yeah,

Unknown: yeah, and, and you are
right. I'm the one bringing the

the bread right here. I mean, my
husband works and he it's

providing, but I'm the one that
has this is the ideal. Yes, yes.

Okay,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: now I
want to say something. Would

anyone have realized the
enormity of how serious that

was, by how light hearted and
jovial Leslie was kind of about

it, like in my mind, it was
like, Oh, I had this little part

time job, and I made a little
bit extra money, and my husband

went, what you really could have
said is I was a primary bread

winner in my family for 18
years, and this woman came

along, and because we had a
personality conflict, I lost my

job, and it ripped the carpet
out from underneath me, and I've

been scared, really, ever since.
And at this stage of my life, am

I going to do I need another
corporate job? Should I be

trying to find another corporate
job? Do I go after my thing? Do

I build my dream? Do I I'm in
limbo right now,

Unknown: yes, yes, yes, yes, and
more, yes. Okay, so here's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: what
I want to tell everyone. I'm not

a psychic. This is the
empowerment process when my

coaches learn how to listen in
to where a woman is resonating.

Because if we ask her the right
questions, she's going to tell

us, we don't need to guess and
go, Oh, I should do this

process, or I should do that
process. No, when someone is in

blame, when someone is in
helplessness, when someone's had

their feels like they've had
their power taken from them, we

need to give them back
permission to take back their

power, and the way that we do it
is we get them to write letters

to whoever and everybody who
they feel has taken power from

them. Now, it could be in this
situation with just this boss,

but if it were me and you and we
had a few calls, we'd be digging

deeper, and I'd be saying, Where
do you remember feeling this way

before? When do you remember
feeling that feeling before,

where you felt like you had your
power taken from you

Unknown: last time I didn't have
a job. So that was like, I don't

know, like, before that, I mean,
the first, first, first time

that I didn't have a job, and my
husband was the one feeding me,

and my father was helping me,
giving me some extra money just

in case that I needed that was
like, oh, not 20 more than 20,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: more
than 20 years, 20 years ago.

What if I were to tell you that
the reaction that's coming up in

your body is 20 years old? Oh,
and so we keep getting triggered

in life by things over and over.
But if we could go back to kind

of the root of it and pull the
weeds up out of the garden, then

we don't have to keep getting
triggered. So when I'm not

working and when I'm not making
money, it creates a feeling

inside of me that I feel. Tell
me, Leslie, when I'm not making

money and I have to ask people
for help,

Unknown: I feel

Crystal Andrus Morissette: helpless.
Feel useless, useless, helpless,

worthless, because I was not
taught that who I am, all by

myself, if I never made a penny,
is more than enough. You know

what? I just

Unknown: it just click on my
mind a long, long, long time

ago, it was not the first time,
like 20 years ago, I was married

already, but before that, I I
had a boyfriend prior my

husband, that he left me just
when I lost my job, and I was

grieving a lot. I have a
depression. I mean, it was the

worst nightmare on

Crystal Andrus Morissette: my
phone. Oh, there's like this

invisible thread, yes, woven all
the way back to your child,

actually. And we all have them.
We all have these invisible

threads that we've all the way
back. So if we were to bear it,

take it right down to when you
were a little girl, and you had

to learn about your worthiness
and your worthiness as a woman.

And what did you learn about
your worthiness and. About how

much you mattered, about how
worthy you were. What, what did

you learn as a little girl from
your mother,

Unknown: who was from my father,
but it was that, and he, this is

his words, that he raised a
woman that, oh God, there you

go. That she needed to be strong
enough to support herself, so

not to depend, not depending on
a man,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah,
so letting yourself depend on

your husband, who this is a big
one for you. Yeah. It is letting

yourself be taken care of,
letting yourself pause and

breathe and relax and know
you're going to be okay, and

this is your time, and your next
chapter is opening, and your

second act is coming. And it's
takes a lot to rewire all

beliefs from childhood that I I
should never count on anyone,

and I have to be able to stand
on my own two feet. And I really

what does that mean about you?
If your husband takes care of

you? What if your husband is the
sole provider for you and your

family? What would that mean
about you?

Unknown: I be on that side. I
mean, I'm I'm feeling good on

that, that side, that I need,
that I would perform whatever

activity I want and I don't
need. If that's the word that I

will say, but it's that belief
in me, that I, I am the one that

needs to be like the provider,
the strongest I

Crystal Andrus Morissette: know
Leslie. There was also a

movement, and we were all a part
of it, yeah, and, and it was our

generation that was like, you
know, not want to depend on a

man. You want to be able to take
care of yourself. You want to

know but do your own thing, and
all of that's great that all of

us women decided we gotta be
more empowered and we gotta but

it also really sets us back if
we because I've done the same

thing to myself, I've created an
environment where it's I've

always made sure it's on my
shoulders. I don't even know why

I do it like I don't think I'm
doing it, but if our reality is

showing us our beliefs, then you
have to be honest. To look at

your we all have to be so honest
with ourselves, to look at our

reality, and then it will show
us what we believe, not the

truth of who we really are, but
it will show us what we believe

about who we really are.

Unknown: So

Crystal Andrus Morissette: you're
rewriting some beliefs right

now, yes, yes. And I think it
would also Angelica just had a

breakthrough. I love that
breakthroughs coming through

Leslie as you allow yourself now
to look at that story that you

had this limiting belief around
letting yourself receive love,

letting yourself be taken care
of, that it's okay, that it's

it's a it's teamwork, that it's
perfectly fine. It doesn't mean

anything about you. Whether you
make a lot of money or you make

no money, it changes nothing
about your worth. You're not a

more worthy person. If you make
more money, you're not more

valuable. If you make more
money, you're not more important

than anyone or less important
than anyone. There's not one

human being on this entire earth
that's more important than you.

Unknown: I love you. That's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: the
truth. Like, you have to know

that, like, there's not one
human being on the entire earth

that has more value than you
have, and your value doesn't

come from your income. It just
It comes from the human being

that you are.

Unknown: So what letters do

Crystal Andrus Morissette: we
need to write? Or do you even

need to like, I'm almost feeling
like Leslie's already got this

thing figured out.

Unknown: No, I'm good, I'm good.
I'm good. I just love the

process. I mean, I want to let
you know that even though I know

the tools, it's really hard when
when you perform it to yourself.

I mean, you really, yeah, you
really need someone to help you

also. Thank you.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Thank
you so much. Thank you. And you

know what, ladies, I say this
all the time. If we could all

heal by ourselves, we'd all read
the book, write in the journal

and be

Unknown: healed, I know, but

Crystal Andrus Morissette: you
actually have to have someone to

talk it out with and to have
things mirrored to you, and then

that laugh and that realization
empowerment. Coaches never give

people advice. We just ask the
right questions so that your own

inner wisdom will tell you the
right answer, because there's no

right answer for anybody but you
have the right answers inside of

you. Every one of us know our
right answers, but we won't know

how to access them if we don't
know how to ask the right

questions. So thank

Unknown: you. Leslie, thank you.
Thank you so much. Crystal.

Thank. We

Crystal Andrus Morissette: all
got to feel that breakthrough.

It was very palpable. Let's do
this again. I surrender shame, I

surrender shame. I surrender
guilt. I surrender guilt. I

surrender blame. I surrender
blame. I surrender grief I

surrender grief I surrender
fear. I surrender fear, I

surrender desires, I surrender
desires, i i surrender anger. I

surrender anger, I surrender
pride, I surrender pride, I

surrender my ego. I surrender my
ego and the identity I thought I

needed to have,

Unknown: and the identity that I
thought that I needed to have,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and I
step into my courage to be my

real self.

Leslie: And I step into my
courage to be my real self. How

Crystal Andrus Morissette: does
that feel? Perfect, wonderful,

amazing. Thank you. Thank you
powerful. Thank you. Thank you.

Leslie,

Unknown: thank you Crystal,
thank you so much.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Wow,
wasn't that so great? Like that?

That was just a quick, powerful
session. So that's how quick

energy shifts, and it it can be.
It can take a lot of talking and

a lot of working through, but
it's really can be quite easy

and quite palpable. I want us
all to take a deep breath.

Leslie, you take a deep breath.
All of us take a deep breath.

Let's all really anchor this in,
because whether you were in the

hot seat, like Leslie, the love
seat today, are you just

listening? Something shifted. I
had quite a few times through

that conversation that my whole
body went into goosebumps, and

that's my soul talking to me,
and I know that something in

this conversation landed exactly
where it needed for you. So

here's my question, where is
your energy going? Are you

letting fear or blame or grief
or what guilt? Are you letting

it dictate your choices? Are you
getting caught up in all the

lies, the illusions? Are you
giving your power away to the

chaos outside of you? Or are you
choosing to turn up your inner

light? Are you choosing to have
the courage to be your real

self, because empowerment isn't
about controlling the world.

It's not about controlling the
lady at work. It's about

mastering yourself. Let's really
pause to let that sink in. It's

about you being able to access
your own body, to know what

you're feeling, and to be able
to feel the feeling without

becoming that emotion. Take a
moment to feel it and to own it

and to decide what comes next
for you. And if today's

conversation moves something
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