Simply...Woman!

Crystal Andrus Morissette: What
if one conversation could change

everything? What if today was
literally the day that you

finally saw yourself the real
you, without the old stories,

without the fear, without the
weight of everything that's been

holding you back. Well, that's
exactly what's happening right

here, right now and today, it
all begins.

Welcome to simply woman the
podcast. It's only taken me 21

years. Crystal Andrus
Morissette, and this is not just

another podcast. This is a space
for real, raw, on-the-spot

transformation. Empowerment,
Coaching is unreal. How much it

can just shift things. I love
that saying that Wayne Dyer used

to say, and gosh, I'm so blessed
that I got to know Wayne and

spend some time with him and
travel some of the different I

Can Do It events. But I remember
he used to stand on the stage and

say, When you change the way you
look at things, the things you

look at change. And I always
thought, yeah, when you change

the way you look at people, the
people change; when you change

the way you look at yourself,
it's unbelievable, but you know,

you change the way you see
yourself! And beauty really is

in the eye of the beholder.
Every single episode, we're

going to be doing some coaching.
I'm going to be some doing some

coaching with real women right
here, just like you who are

ready to maybe break free from
the past or a story or even just

a situation that's going on
right now, like, why this is

like, I'm on the treadmill, I'm
on repeat. Maybe it's time for

you to reclaim more of your
power, more of your energy.

Maybe you're ready to actually
step in to the woman that you

are always meant to be. And so I
am so excited, because right

now, women are raising their
hands right here in our little

What are we going to call this?
Our Simply...Woman Recording

Studio, right now, stepping into
this moment with me, and I'm so

excited, because they don't know
exactly what's going to happen,

and I don't know exactly what's
going to happen, but I know that

they're ready. They're ready, or
they wouldn't be here today. And

here's the best part, you might
hear your own story in theirs,

and you might find the
breakthrough that you didn't

even know you needed. Because
the truth is, transformation

doesn't just happen for the
woman I'm coaching. This is

what's so beautiful about this.
It happens for every single one

of us, everyone who chooses to
listen, to feel and to rise. So

we're going to put two feet on
the floor. I always say this. We

gotta Root To Rise. So you got
to feel grounded, put two feet

on the floor and let yourself
rise up tall in your being.

Remember that the center of who
you are, the core of who you

are, can never be lost. It's
sort of like your golden magic.

Sometimes we put layers of
protection on top of us,

protection to and I think it's
interesting, because a lot of

times we don't even know until
we do this type of work that

we've put on layers of
protection to keep our golden

self, our real self, our essence
safe. And so we don't have to be

mad at these protective parts.
We don't have to be mad at the

parts of us that step in and
take over. And sometimes we

might even say, What the heck
was going on last night? Who was

I? That's not even me. Well, no,
it's a part of you. It's a part

of you that says, Oh no, we're
not going to let this golden,

beautiful essence of a woman be
hurt. We're going to protect

her. So let's do it today. We're
going to meet the first woman

who is brave enough. I I don't
want to see it. Don't worry.

Don't worry, Dorothy. But it's
the first woman who bravely

said, I'm ready. Very first one,
I'm ready. Let's see where this

takes us, because I can promise
you this, this is just the

beginning. So Dorothy, I would
love if we could just jump right

in. I know that we this is our
first podcast here, and I said,

let's do some coaching. And
Dorothy said, I'm in. So

Dorothy, do you want to go ahead
and unmute your line? And I know

you're kind of on the spot, but
this is what's so beautiful

about this kind of coaching.
Welcome. Dorothy: I love it. Thank you.

Dorothy: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you for your energy.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: Thank you, Dorothy, and I think
this is what a lot of us don't

realize when we talk about what
empowerment is. I think we can

get caught up in sort of like,
yes, it is the way we negotiate

and communicate and compromise.
Yeah, it is all in the ways we

show up. But ultimately, what it
really comes down to is the

energy, the authentic energy
that we feel inside, and the

authentic energy we bring,
whether we realize it or not,

into every exchange and.

Into every conversation, into
every relationship, everywhere

we go. And so we all love to be
around that person. And we've

all, we've all met people like
this, and we've all, I'm

certain, had times in our life
where we just felt like, bam,

you guys will get to know me and
all my little sounds, bam, like,

Damn, I'm feeling good today.
That's energy. That's energy.

And we all have times where we
feel great. Things are clicking.

We just, wow, I I feel good.
That's energy. And there's times

in life for whatever reason, it
might be nothing to do with us.

It's not our fault. It's
circumstances, it's life, it's

reality as the way that we are
seeing it. It's really hard for

us to feel good. And so what
empowerment coaching is, and

what we're going to be doing in
these conversations, is

helping you take back your
power, so that no matter

where you're going, no matter
what you have to deal with, no

matter who you're dealing with,
no matter what's happening, you

have this inner sense of self
efficacy, this inner sense of,

I'm going to I'm going to be
okay. And then even better than

that, like, that's what we just
want to get someone to is like,

you know what? It's going to be
okay, but if we can actually

then get someone to the point of
like, it's not only going to be

okay, it's going to be great.
Like, that woman can't help but

bring that energy into
everything she does and

everywhere she goes and it it
authentically feels good in the

body. So Dorothy, I know we're
sort of just jumping in today,

but is there an area of your
life right now, or anything

going on for you right now that
you would love to get some

clarity around or maybe a little
support? Absolutely, this call

has come at a really good time,
right? So I am, you know, I take

notes, and I'm, I'm going to
figure out God for it notes with

my Yeti mic, but it's all going
to work. Here we go. So Dorothy,

talk to me. Talk to me, sister.
So

Dorothy: as you know, I left the
corporate world quite a number

of months ago and decided to
hang up my

Dorothy: HR hat in the
traditional sense and start my

own business as a coach, and
also as a fractional HR

consultant. And I was geared up
ready to go. Momentum was on

high. It was December. We were
going into January, and then

January got here, and Dorothy
went

and then I started to do some
self reflection. Okay, what's

causing me to lose this momentum
that I had at such a high level

in December?

And I realized that part of it
was my old self,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: in
the sense that January also

always symbolized an extremely
busy time for me and my HR

career. And you know, you'd go
through the holidays and you

would enjoy that, but then boom,
bam, you're back into January,

and you better get going,
because the roller coaster ride

is about to start. And I just, I
think, for me, I, I, you know, I

was programmed like that for so
many years. You were and then,

then I was like, But wait a
minute. Wait a minute. You know

what nobody said, because it's
January 6, it's the first work

day of the year that you have to
be working today. I know you

don't report to anybody. You
report to you. It doesn't

matter. It's really exciting.
Oh, so. But I was like, Okay, so

my own boss. Okay, now I gotta
be my own boss, right? I gotta

set my own schedule. I gotta set
my own energy. I gotta create

the office. I gotta create the
environment. Okay, so now, but

it's so great that you had, I'll
tell you this right out of the

gate. What great self reflection
that you were able to go, Wait,

this is an old story, yeah, not
even, and maybe not even say,

not that, I mean, to correct
you, but maybe not even my old

self, just, oh, this is an old
story. And this was so

repetitive, and this was such a
routine, and this was just

January blues and and overwhelm.
And then I always went into, I'm

just guessing, because I'm a
little bit intuitive, but I also

have just coached women for 30
years. And then we go into

February, and then there's the
February there's the February

the blues, and there's a whole
story of all the people who we

always worked with, and all the
corporate and everybody hates

January. Everybody in corporate
hates January. And there's not

really a big holiday until when,

if you get March, break off. So
everybody that works corporate,

unless you've learned how to
stay empowered, no matter where

you work,

we're all pulled into and let's
also remind ourselves, Dorothy,

that you.

Not only do we feel energy just
through a computer screen, like

we can be here and we can feel
each other, and then we can

actually, through osmosis,
energy will lift other lifts

energy. That's what's so
beautiful. We can we can lift

each other up. But let's also be
honest, you're going into an

office every day, and morale
isn't the greatest, and you're

in HR, and everybody just had
their happy doo doc Christmas

and spent all their money, and
now they're back, and the whole

environment you're working in.
So if every single person, let's

just imagine, well, we know
this, everybody gives off

energy. Like, why? I feels like,
Finally, people are talking

about it, going, Yeah, it's real
like so everybody goes, Oh, you

mean, when you walk into a room,
a dog can tell if you're going

to be scared of them, or if
you're aggressive or, well,

yeah. And people can too. And so
if you're in an environment

where you're surrounded by
people who are kind of

miserable, holy, damn, you would
have to be like Jesus to be able

to keep your energy high. So
this is why we always say

environment is so important, the
environment that we're creating.

Now. Does that mean everybody
that works in a job they don't

like they quit their job? No,
but guess what Dorothy, you did?

Yes, you and I'm safer for it
anymore, but you have an old

story that's playing on repeat,
which is brain thing. So then

when it becomes very excited
about empowerment coaching, it

can be like, okay, so it's a
brain but here's what's so

beautiful. It's kind of
challenging at times to say to

somebody, change your thoughts.
We've all been told it thoughts

become things. If you think
about it enough times, it's

going to happen. It's true. But
how do we change a thought? How

do we grab our thoughts by how
we feel?

So how do you know how you're
thinking? By asking yourself,

How am I feeling? So let's not
even go back to January now,

because you've already told me
January was blah. I had the

January headed into February.
Now I got a little the February

blues. I'm on an old story. My
brain is on a pattern that, for

how many years did you work in
corporate? 26 years in HR. So

for 26 years, I always knew that
January was I had to amp up. So

here's the other thing, could
there also possibly be a little

bit of I

don't know what to do with
myself right now. I mean, I do

know what to do with myself. I
got so many things I need to do,

but I'm so used to January being
chaotic that I'm almost

polarized now. And that's what
polarized thinking can do. It's

like all or nothing. I'm on or
I'm off, I'm going crazy at work

in HR, or I'm, I think I may be
getting depressed at home here

for trying to figure out how to
get my next clients. I don't

know. Where are you at? Dorothy,
yeah, yeah. So there, there's a

little bit of an element of that
going on. So of course, now it's

like, okay, it's a brand new
year. And I told myself, and I'm

still telling myself this, so I
want to be clear. I'm a badass

bitch, and I know I can do this
business and make it successful.

I i freaking know that, yes,
there's no I believe in myself

150%

Dorothy: in that, okay, but
there's something holding me

back,

and I'm not 100% sure exactly
what that is,

but you know, I'm not, I'm I'm
not in it with both feet. I

wouldn't say, I'd say I was in
it with maybe

Crystal Andrus Morissette: one
foot and nine toes. Okay, so

let's stay with this, because
one of the very simple things

we're going to do right now out
of the gate, and one of the

things that I teach women all
the time, and it's one of the

simplest ways of manifesting,
manifesting one on one, we're

going to do a real quick
manifesting. Here's a

breakthrough right now for
anybody that wants one, you make

a list of the things you say you
really want. I think we've

probably done this before,
Dorothy, but we're going to do

it right now. So I'm a badass
bitch. Okay, we're going to

write that one down. I am a bad
I love writing word for word,

what people say so that, like,
in five years from now, when we

do a coaching call, be like,
remember the time you told me

I'm a badass bitch I am. And
then you might be like, Oh, I'm

so mortified. Or you'll be like,
I am even a bigger badass bitch

now that I wasn't. But it's
always great, and I love to

write things down word for word,
because then, and also, as a

coach, this is how we build
rapport. So there's another

little inside scoop. When
somebody says, I'm a badass

bitch, that pretty much tells
you, you can say things like,

badass bitch. But if somebody
comes on and says like, I just

got back from church, I did a
confession. I was doing my

confession this morning, you
might not say bad ass bitch to

that lady. You might be like,
alright, so help How are you

feeling today? Let's sing a
little

let's sing a little choir, song
together. Let's get in. Anyways.

Crystal's having her humor. She
thinks she's funny. Okay, the

bad ass bitch says, I believe in
myself, I believe in myself, I

believe in myself. Okay, here's
manifesting 101,

write down what it is you really
want. I.

Okay, I'm gonna actually narrow
it down to three things right

now. I might write down three
things you really want. Write

them down. Everybody can do
this, write it down. And

so that's the three things right
now, you keep saying you want,

you want. You want this, my
cat's gonna join the podcast,

just to let you know.

Yeah, I hear you Lulu. And then
beside it, I want you to write a

number between one and 10. And
10 is I want this so bad, like,

I mean, I'm really going to be
dramatic here in my 10. I want

this so bad. If I don't do this,
a part of me will really feel

like I failed myself, I
abandoned myself. If I don't do

this, there's going to be a part
of me that feels like, wow, I

I gave up part of myself,
something I really wanted to do

in this lifetime, and I may
never get another chance. And

that would be really shitty.

I can say shitty because you
already said badass bitch. Now,

if you had said that would be
poopoo, I'd be like, that would

be yucky, yucky. Cuckoo, Poopoo.
So

on a scale of one to 1010. I
need this. I want this. I need

to do this. This is really
important to me. One is no.

Seven is it would be so nice. It
would be amazing if I could do

it. But if I don't, I'll, I'll,
I'll be fine. So now you know

they're where you're rating it.
Now, beside those three things,

I want you to truly take a pause
in your heart of hearts,

not how much you want it, but
how much deep, deep down, on a

scale of one to 10, you we're
going

to we're going to do it this
way. You not only want it, you

only feel like you want it. You
think you want it. But here's

what a 10 is. You are 150%

certain it will happen. That's
10. So now I want you to write a

number beside that one, which
is, I believe it's going to

happen. In fact, believe isn't
even a good enough word. I am

100% certain it will happen.
That's 10. Now give it a number.

So when you look at your list,
Dorothy and you give me your

very first thing, tell me what
it is on your list, happiness

and balance. Happiness and
balance. I want that with a 10.

And that's pretty big like so I
would actually break that down

even more if it would, and maybe
we will happiness and balance.

What was your second thing,

a financially successful
business, a financially

successful business, and what
was the third thing?

Flexibility, flexibility. So, so
two of those things are more of,

I guess they're all relative.
Really, they're all relative.

Like, what's happiness to
somebody? Might not be happiness

to somebody else, but it's
happiness for you. So I will let

you know my word of the year was
happiness, and believe me, I've

had one last year was, I think
it was reckoning. Like, they

haven't been all like, you know,
fairy tales and rainbows, all my

words, sometimes my roots are
like

but this year was happiness,
because I want happiness too. So

on a scale of one to 10, how
badly do you want happiness 10,

and how much they're all 10,
they're all 10, they're all 10.

And on a scale of one to 10, how
much do you believe for sure

you're going to be happy?

Oh, 10 without question, okay,
and how much on a scale of 10,

one to 10, or do you believe
you're going to have what was

the second one you said, as a
financially successful business?

And how much do you believe that
one a nine, right? So I'm going

to stop you right here before we
go any further. I already knew

the fact that you wrote
happiness first and then a

successful business

that is not your number one
priority right now.

The reason that you haven't
kicked into your career this

year, in January like you
thought it would, is because

it's not even at the top of your
priority list. And if you have

an idea in your head that
business is a nine, but

happiness is a 10, then
happiness and business are not

aligned right now,

because you're actually seeing,
I want to be happy. How much was

your flexibility? What number
was that one? I had it as a 10,

that you really important. Okay,
so happiness and flexibility to

me what I'm hearing and I'm
going by feeling, by the way,

I've been doing this 30 years, I
feel things off people. So it's

not that I know it, but somehow
I know things. And what I know

and what I felt was, right now
for you, Dorothy, I'm

going to speak from my heart for
a minute, and I feel that right

now. For you, you're in a period
of healing and transition, and

although you so badly just
wanted to be in the fall, like

I'm doing the thing and I'm
building the course and I'm

doing the I don't know, and we
can talk a little bit deeper

about the thing that's holding
you back, because you said

there's something holding me
back, and you're right, there

is, and we're going to get to
it.

And if I didn't have this mic
here, I'd be writing notes right

now, so I'm going to be speaking
when we're going to get to it.

So there is something holding
you back,

Dorothy: but underneath that,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I'm
intuitively going to say, This

is my gut feeling that you've
had a lot of stress for a long

time. Yep, there was a laugh of
truth, ladies, when you oh yeah,

have a laugh that quick and but
it's not funny.

That means there's something in
their nervous system that just

went it's like a comedian when
somebody says something and we

all laugh, it's because
something in our nervous system

just got triggered. So what
Dorothy is really saying is,

holy cow, I've been running. I
have been in overdrive for so

long that I finally left the HR
job, and then I settled down a

little bit, and then had a fun
Feb, December, and I was like,

and then all of a sudden I was

like, the reality of everything
I've been through

Dorothy: is hitting me,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
normally, January, I don't have

time to pause

Dorothy: and rest and reflect.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: January
is the time of the year. If we

were to listen to nature, and we
were to follow our natural

rhythms of our bodies, like we
said, two feet on the floor.

This is, if you look outside,
holy, geez, I think we got hit

last night with would I be
exaggerating 10 feet of snow?

This is the time of year. And
listen, I am still launching

things and doing things and and
creating. But I'll tell you

this, the energy that I have had
through December, this chair is

bugging me. So

sorry about that. I have a
little I don't have ADHD. I'm

never going to say that ever
again, but I hear everything at

all times, so that clicking on
the chair has to be remedied for

the next call, I will tell you
that the energy that you will

naturally, organically have as a
human being, a woman in touch

with your body is going to be
different with the seasons. Does

that mean we can't launch an
incredible business in January?

Yeah, we all do it every
January. We all put our whole

list of new year's resolutions
together, and then we all go,

why have I followed off track by
january 22 well, because January

is actually the time when
everything

hunkers down,

and everybody gets a little bit
slower, and everything gets a

little bit more like, when you
think about the row I have these

beautiful rose gardens and like,
that's not the time that the

rose is blooming. This right now
is the time that actually

everything has died

and down under the earth right
now, all of these incredible

things are happening in
stillness

and in in more of the quiet. And
so I would say that the

corporate world that you have
lived in for 20 something years.

I'm here I go is based on a
patriarchal hierarchy. It's

based on a patriot model,
absolutely on a model that

doesn't work for women. It
doesn't work for our bodies. It

doesn't work for so what do we
do? Dorothy, when we have to go

to these corporate jobs? Well,
guess what? I'm not coaching

that woman today. I'm coaching
the woman that said, for 20

something years, I lived in a
world where there was hierarchy

and there was pressure and there
was stress and there was Go, go,

go, and we had to be there at a
certain time, and everything was

in January. Was the most
stressful time of the year. But

I'm a woman, damn it,

and I'm more like nature, and
this is not the time for me to

have all this stress in my life.
So I'm always like, yeah, like,

I think it's great everybody has
their New Year's resolutions and

their diets and all their stuff,
and I don't mean to put any of

it I never, you know me, I'm all
about the energy, but I also

think it's listening and
honoring. So there is something

that's holding me back in that
more accepting place. Do you

feel yourself a little bit more
accepting of what's gone on in

the last month? Like you feel
like, oh, maybe your body was

oh, yeah, maybe your body, I
gave myself grace, and I spent a

lot of time with a very good
friend of mine, and just being

with that person, where in the
middle of the day we can have

coffee if we want to, and it can
last two hours, who cares? And

you needed this. And you need
this. I did what I'm going to

say, if you are in a position
right now where you're like, I

need a majorly thriving,
successful business right now,

then,

then, if you're like, second on
my list is a very financially

secure business. Well, now
here's what I know, is when I

can accept myself for what I'm
going through and that I I

wanted to be motivated. I I'm
being you right now, by the way,

I want.

To be motivated. I wanted to be
incredible in January. I wanted

to deliver all the pull out all
the stops and deliver all the

punches and hit all the things
and cross all the t's and dot

all the i's. And I had big plans
for January. It didn't work. The

greatest gift you can give
yourself right now is say I

accept

that the plans that I had

Unknown: were not the plans for
me.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
accept that my body and my

nervous system

and my years and years of going
and going and going

revolted

and refused to go into the old
pattern that I'm so used to

doing that January 6 makes my
stomach feel sick and nervous.

So this year, I listened to my
body,

and I slowed down, and I know I
had the to do list. And the to

do list is important, but your
to do list already told me that

it wasn't at the top of your
list. So what gets in the way

our to do lists? What gets in
the way is the expectations and

pressures we put on ourselves.
If we don't really want it, why

are we putting it on our to do
list? So I know it's nine,

meaning it's a number nine on
your list, so it's still up

there. But what I'm hearing,
most importantly is I really

want to feel happy.

Let's put two feet on the ground
right now. Let's close our eyes.

If we can do this just for a
second. Dorothy, close your

eyes. I'm going to do it with
you.

And let's just imagine right now
that there's a little mini you

standing on a little mini
elevator right in the top of

your head, right in your brain,
your busy little brain, that's

always like, neurons are firing.
Oh my gosh, if you could

actually see yourself in that
little brain right now, there

are neurons and synaptic
pathways, and things are firing

and, holy, there's a little tiny
you, and this, like, massive

computer, and it's just like
firing everywhere. And you see

this little elevator on the
wall, and we're going to walk

over to the elevator and we're
going to press the elevator door

button, and the elevator doors
are going to open up there in

that busy brain of yours, and
you're going to step inside the

elevator, and the doors are
going to close, and it's going

to be quiet. Take a deep breath,
breathe in the silence. And then

we're going to allow yourself to
drop down, down, down, down out

of your busy brain and just
almost feel the elevator

dropping and it's going to go
right down past your throat

chakra, maybe your throats like

really stuck. The elevator
stuck, and it's going to keep

lowering down. I'm going to let
it lower all the way down into

your heart center.

Put your hands right here on
your chest, if you can where

your solar plexus is or where
your heart center is.

And those elevator doors open,
and there's a magnificent green,

beautiful garden inside you,

inside your heart center, there
is the most magnificent garden.

Just stay with me, if you can
use your imagination. It is your

most powerful tool for
empowerment. Using your

imagination, the doors open,
there's green everywhere, green

grass, green flowers, gorgeous
flowers,

the scent, the smell, it's your
Sacred Garden.

And there you are inside this
beautiful place. And everybody

has their own magnificent Sacred
Garden. And over just not too

far in the distance, there's a
beautiful pond with a big

fountain in the middle of the
pond, and you walk towards the

pond,

and you pick up a little stone
that's down by the pond, and you

hold that little stone in your
hand inside your secret garden

beside the pond,

and you hold that in your hand,
that little pebble, and you say,

I'm making A wish,

and happiness and flexibility
will be mine.

And you take the pebble and you
throw it into the pond, and now

you become one with the pebble,
and we allow ourselves to just

drop down, down down to the
bottom of the pond, for all is

still

Unknown: and all is quiet,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
you can breathe down there at

the bottom of the pond, and it
doesn't matter if there's a huge

storm going on up outside on top
of the pond. It doesn't matter

if the wind is blowing. It
doesn't matter what's happening.

You're down in this calm, still

place where happiness and
flexibility is always yours,

and in that quiet place, you
swim back up to the top knowing

that you have this stillness
inside of you,

and suddenly you just come out
of the pond, and it doesn't

matter You're so alive and
vibrant and happy and flexible

Unknown: and fulfilled,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
breathing deeply into that allow

yourself and allow your body to
anchor into this feeling

and in this accepting, happy,
flexible place inside of you

where all is as it's meant to.

Be and everything is unfolding
perfectly, and nothing is wrong.

Everything is unfolding. You
allow now to enter into your

awareness, just as though you
were floating by the pond or

standing by the pond, you allow
to enter into your awareness

right now, something you've been
struggling with,

something that's really been
getting in the way, something

that you're don't have the
answer to. And just in this

moment, just ask yourself if
your highest self has any wisdom

for you.

And if anything comes through,
take it, if it doesn't just be

within and know that over the
course of the day and over the

next few days, when all
struggling ceases and everything

slows down, that answer will
become obviously apparent to

you, And you will know because
you know you

and deep down, you know

how you feel.

And if the answer hasn't come
yet, just trust and know it's on

its way, and it will come with
grace

Dorothy: and love

and confidence

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
gently bringing your awareness

back into the room,

and there's no rush. Breathing
deeply, anchor yourself into

that feeling.

When we are in a more grounded
place, we are more connected.

We're closer to who we really
are,

and in that more grounded, calm,
centered place, then we can

start asking ourselves the
truth. So Dorothy, if I were to

ask you right now, just to fill
in this sentence, and don't

overthink it, just whatever
comes out for you, the truth is

Unknown: the truth I need some
more healing. The truth is I

need more healing. Tell me the
next The truth is

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
already have inner happiness.

I just need to grasp onto it
harder. Okay, so we're going to

stay with that for a minute, and
I want to, I want to just give

you another tool here. So
imagine that happiness is like

sand,

and when we grasp anything

Unknown: it

Crystal Andrus Morissette: it's
like grasping sand, it just

siphons out through our fingers.

So the happiness is already you.

You don't even have to grasp it.
You don't have to do anything

with it. You just actually have
to allow it and say I am happy

inside. Try saying that I am
happy inside. I am happy inside.

I am happy inside. I have
actually created a life that,

no, it's not everywhere I want
it to be, but I am moving in the

right direction, and healing is
happening to me,

and healing is happening for me.

Yes, healing is happening for me
100% so the truth is, there's

something holding me back. And
the truth is, without any

judgment, it didn't make me a
bad woman, it didn't make me a

bad daughter, a bad mother, a
bad wife, a bad sister, a bad

anything, a bad coach. The truth
is, I'm feeling

I still have some wounds to
heal, yeah, yeah,

Dorothy: and they're not all
about my professional life. They

very rarely are.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: There's
another laugh of truth,

no, but the professional life
can keep us very busy and very

distracted. Mm, hmm, and you hit
it. Very important identity. I'm

very, very important. I am
healing the world. I'm healing

the world. Yeah, I'm very busy.
I'm a VIP, and I don't have time

to heal me. I've been there,
been there, done that. Got the t

shirt. Thank you very much.

So here's what's interesting.

I didn't know at the time,

and no one would see what has
unfolded for me over the last

two years, and probably said, I
don't know. I shouldn't say. I'm

really learning to not assume
what anyone would think, but

it looks like I've done a lot.

It looks, I'm thinking to the
outside world, like she's done a

lot. She's lost weight, she's
done this, and she's launched

that, and she's written this,
and she's and I don't know,

maybe it doesn't, but I've been
in two years of healing. I.

I've been in two years of
slowing everything down and

setting boundaries with people,
and not being so quick to have

the answers and save the day,
and not being so quick to come

up with the money.

Because if I keep coming up with
all the money, all the time,

nobody else has to

and so

it's can be hard for women to
actually

Unknown: learn

Crystal Andrus Morissette: my
feelings are my responsibility,

and your feelings are your
responsibility, and I'm no

longer responsible for other
people's feelings.

So it doesn't mean we can't be
kind, and it doesn't mean it

means we have to set boundaries,
and we can do those boundaries

with kindness. Sometimes it
feels like you can't because you

have somebody that's coming at
you that won't listen when

you're trying to be kind, and
sometimes you have to set those

boundaries with a fierceness
that's still kind,

but you you're at a you're at a
place right now. Dorothy, it's

very apparent to me, you're
ready to level up.

Yeah. And to level up, there's
some things you have to let go

of,

because it's like holding on to
sand. I'm holding on to these

wounds. I've been what, and
you've been wounded. I've been

wounded, and I'm not ready yet
to let go of these wounds,

because I have formed
protection.

Unknown: So that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
don't get wounded anymore, and I

don't know how to let go of the
protection,

because what if those wounds,
what if I don't know how to keep

myself safe and that stuff
happens again? So do you feel

safe enough or comfortable
enough just with me right now to

share a little bit more about
what's coming up for you that's

not to do with work, that's to
do with something Sure,

personally, yeah, really love
coaching, to be honest,

Unknown: I think in I attribute
my strength of who I am to my

late mother,

who's

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
think it's fair to say

I

haven't fully grieved her, yeah,

yeah, and I miss her, yeah,

yeah. She weighs on my brain
every day. Sorry. No, please let

yourself yeah. It's so good.
It's so healing. You don't need

you just talk right through it,
whatever comes up for you. She

tells me every day,

Unknown: you can do this. You
can do whatever you put your

mind to. She always instilled in
me

Crystal Andrus Morissette: the
strength. And honestly, she

didn't have a lot of strength in
her own life, sadly, but she

sure made sure I did. She loves
you, and she is your cheerleader

right now. And actually, all the
women who came before you right

now are cheering for both of us.
They're like, Oh my god, this is

okay, Dorothy and Crystal
sitting in a tree. They're gonna

change the women in the world.
And we're so happy. We're gonna

start with Dorothy.

We're just gonna start with
Dorothy because Dorothy's doing

some generational healing right
now. Yeah, Dorothy isn't just

healing herself. She's healing
all the women who came before

her and and anyone who may come
after, and all the women

collectively,

all

just rise up a little bit higher
when Dorothy rises up a little

bit higher, that's the impact we
have. That's what energy is. So

when did your mom pass Dorothy?

Unknown: July 3, 2016

so it'll be 10 years this year.
Yeah, it's a big year. So it's a

big time. I don't like that.
What part I don't like? What

that it's been that long, and
why? Why don't you like that?

Um, when I first lost her, I
think a lot of it, too, is, as

you know, the first anniversary
came, and then the second

anniversary, I didn't like the
fact that one day I'd be sitting

here saying, Oh, my mother's
been gone for 20 years. The idea

of her not being in my life for
that length of time was very

uneasy and unsettling for me.

She isn't going to get to see
some, obviously, some

milestones. I have a son, and
she loved him to faces, and

she's not going to get to see
all the milestones in his life,

because, you know, cancer took
her way too early. Yeah, so, and

we have had, we had our moments
as mothers and daughters do,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: yeah,
so

Unknown: it's,

it's been hard.

To I wasn't able to put her
photo up out in the open until

last year.

Crystal Andrus Morissette: So
this has been a very deep and

and, and grief is different for
everybody, and nobody can tell

you how fast to move through
grief. In fact, I have a book,

and it's so interesting. I just
had it out. It's sitting right

there. It's called transitions
Dorothy. It's actually in our

empowerment coach we talk about
this book transitions by William

Bridges. And what I love about
his book on on transitioning

grieving

is it aligns perfectly with the
work we do as empowerment

coaches. So if we were to look
at Dr David Hawkins map of

consciousness in his book, power
versus force, we would see that

grief if we were to imagine a
map. I might, in future, get a

little whiteboard here, and I
may be doing some drawing over

here to the side. So if we were
to imagine that every emotion,

and you know this, but I'm going
to say this for everybody who

might be listening and learning
this for the first time, every

single emotion can be

calibrated

to

its level of vibration, its
level of frequency, its level

its speed that it vibrates at.
So when we and this is why

sometimes when things feel so
good, and somebody might go, you

see manic. Sometimes people say
that to me, you see manic. And

I'm just like, No, I just so
happy. I have so much energy.

And I had to learn as I became
more happy,

more successful,

had more frequency, currency,
money, all of those things are

increased energy. And if you
don't know how to hold have the

capacity in your brain, in your
beliefs,

in your emotional nervous
system, to hold that kind of

energy, you'll be on an
emotional roller coaster. That's

what happens, like we get up and
then we crash. And it's almost

like the higher, the high, the
harder the crash. So we're

learning how to increase our
energy naturally, always

naturally, and then learning how
to sustain it. Losing your

mother

was tremendously difficult for
you.

It was a massive loss for you,

um. And so if we were to put
that on the "Map of Consciousness"

imagining, let's just swap the
word consciousness out, because

that can be a heady word, and
just put it empowerment, or

feeling good, because it's a map
of feeling good, the lowest

place, the low, the worst that a
human being can fill, or the

heaviest, the hardest, the more
grasping is an energy called

shame, and that's what David
Hawkins says. So shame is like

who I am is no good. That's not
where you're at, because you're

saying I believe in my self, and
I'm a boss bitch and I'm a this,

not back there. So we were not
struggling with shame. So we're

going to keep moving along. And
then the next level is guilt.

And so there's always, here's
the truth in all of that grief,

usually when something is
connected to our mother,

our father, but our mother very
connected to something called

Root Chakra. And root chakra is
also connected this is, this is

where we're going to bridge
David Hawkins "Map of

Consciousness" with,

you know, Eastern philosophies
of of of energy. But we're going

to keep it just on a
psychological where we're

talking emotions, so shame, root
chakra, then the next level is

guilt. I

couldn't put a picture up of my
mother for nine years. Why it

was too hard to look at her face
without as I felt I felt

sad, sad. So underneath the sad
is like I feel guilty that I'm

happy when she's not here.

I feel guilty to be joyful and
celebrate all of these amazing

things, and my mom's not here to
celebrate them. I don't know

it's very layered. Grieving is
very layered.

And then there's apathy, which
is a feeling of almost

hopelessness, like I'm never
going to see my mom again.

That's a story that is feels
very real, because she's

physically passed. So there's
real grief,

energetically, emotionally,
spiritually, we might say, but

you're talking to your mom. You
just said she was in the room.

Unknown: She is. I

Crystal Andrus Morissette: love
your little laugh of truth.

Well, she is, she is around you,
so I'm gonna She's everywhere

she's right now going, yeah, she
tells me every day, like, Hello,

yeah, I'm the one that got you
on this call. You want to know

how you got on the call. I got
you on here so your mom is.

Watching everything. And I don't
mean to poo poo on the the grief

and the sadness. Oh no. Mom is
around watching everything.

She's like, What are you talking
about? I am watching your son.

In fact, I was there the other
day while he was playing soccer,

and I was running down the field
with him. I don't know what

you're talking about. Dorothy,
I'm more with him than I've ever

been. But that's not that when
you're in grief. Telling that to

somebody 10 years ago would have
been like, shut up. My mom isn't

here, but you're you're now
moving through your

transitioning. So then we move
into that feeling of

helplessness or or that feeling
of feeling victimized. I lost my

mom. I was orphaned at too young
of an age. Lost my mom to

cancer. Now here's the level
that's just a little higher that

we're talking about today, and
it's called grief. What I love

is that William Bridges in his
book, transitions. He connects

that to the map. He doesn't, but
I do. And he says there are

three stages to grieving, and I
love that it completely lines up

with David Hawkins, grief. And
then just above grief is an

energy that no one wants to
feel.

But if I were to tell you, you
cannot get up to feeling truly

happy

without moving through the next
level, because we can't

spiritually bypass a level. You
can't turn a light up and go

like but I don't want that
frequency in there. You've got

to move through every frequency
to get to the top.

So here's the level that most of
us try to avoid.

And David, I mean, William
Bridges calls it like there's

grief, there's the first the
loss, that's grief, that's your

loss, the ending. And then the
next level. David Hawkins calls

it fear,

fear.

And William Bridges says, Oh,
this is the land of this is no

man's land. This is land of
confusion. This is I don't have

my mom anymore.

I don't know what life would
look like without my mom. I

don't even know how to really be
happy anymore. I have unresolved

things, or maybe you don't
things. I really wanted to just

I wanted more time with her.

So all of that's going on that's
in fear, and then there will

come a moment. And here is the
truth, Dorothy, if nobody ever

taught us how to move through
emotions,

were you ever taught how to move
through emotions? Yes, if we

weren't taught that, we can very
easily say, I don't want to feel

afraid, because it actually is
like it feels like that inside

your body, you've gone from
feeling almost dead in grief and

sorrow and sadness to you know
what we do? We run to the

doctor. And I'm not putting
anything down, but we run to the

doctor, we go, I don't know
what's happening, like I feel

really and he says, Well, we can
give you some medicine for that,

so you don't have to feel that.
But what if that was your waking

up again

to the next level, which is just
above it, and William Bridges

calls it the new beginning.

David Hawkins, on the Map of
Consciousness, calls it desire.

Now here's the truth. Is desire
the place where we're going to

feel happy. No, but what desire
says is,

this isn't working for me
anymore.

This grieving for 10 years, I
didn't know how to move through

it fully,

and now I'm ready. Because
here's the thing we know with

grief, is it is layered, and
there's probably times where you

felt like you were through it,
but then it came back again, and

then you felt like you were
through it. So now you're really

reaching a point, and what you
have to ask yourself is, deep

down inside, is there a place
deep down inside of you that is

saying,

I'm ready? The grief is
different this time. Now, policy

evolves. So where is this now?
Tell me about that phase of

grief. Now for you, I celebrate
her

more.

Unknown: And when I look outside
and I see a cardinal,

Crystal Andrus Morissette: I
say, Hi mom, yes, Mm, hmm, yeah,

that's beautiful. Yeah. Now it's
new beginnings, because now you

actually realize I can actually
begin to to build the healthiest

relationship I've ever had with
my mom

right now, yeah, I can write in
my journal every day to her, and

I actually can Let her write
back to me. Now I do do this. I

will actually be like, and my
dad talks to me all the time. I

can feel him coming through
crystal. This is what needs to

happen. Then I'll go, Okay, dad.
And then when it happens to be

like, I'm really proud of you. I
know I sound crazy, but I know

he's around me, and the
cardinals come and I go, Hey,

Dad, how are you? And

it all gives me because here's
what empowerment is, Dorothy,

it's how it makes you feel.

So if telling yourself a story
over and over doesn't serve.

Review, but it makes you feel
like you've honored your mother.

There is a pattern in that you
need to know, because there is

something like psychologists
call the grief loop.

And it is a psychological
experience that when we think

about somebody that we've lost,

the pleasure part of your brain
lights up, but instantaneously,

the grieving, the painful part
of your brain, brain lights up

so you stay stuck in a loop. So
I'm going to assert, I'm going

to be like crazy and go your mom
is saying, Honey, stop grieving

me. I'm in the best place I've
ever been, honey, you think I'm

not living I'm living more than
I've ever lived. Oh, I bet she

is. Oh, I bet she is. And
doesn't that make you feel

better? Yes, 100% she we want to
tell ourself a story that would

say, I'm so sad about my mom,
and that your mom right now

might be saying, Honey, I love
you. You've grieved long enough.

Please, please get on with it.
You're young, you're beautiful,

you're smart, you have
everything it takes for you to

do this thing. It's the 10 year
anniversary. Why don't we make

this summer, on the 10 year
anniversary, the official launch

of your new business? And even
though you're still working now

and getting clients, why don't
we actually do a launch party

and you're preparing for it, and
you're getting excited about

this new event, and then we're
going to turn what was your

mother's passing? June, July,
June, July, July 3. 2006 July.

3. July 3. Yeah, me and those
cancers, I don't know. There's a

lot that goes on around June and
July. For me,

my grandmother was a cancer,
although she would say I never

did astrology. And I'll tell you
something, I felt like my

grandmother was a Christian who
believed that if you don't want

to be talking to anything that's
not alive, because it could be a

bad guy. So my grandmother would
have said, There's I will never

be coming down and talking to
you. So if you're hearing

somebody, that's me, but now my
grandmother's saying I was

wrong. I'm really sorry. I'm
around you. Crystal, it only

took 25 years for you to hear
me, because I didn't believe

Unknown: that

Crystal Andrus Morissette: my
grandmother would come around

because I had believed a story
around heaven and hell and

spirit and oracles and energy
and angels, and the only person

you should be praying to is
Jesus. And so anything other

than that, and so that, for a
long time, was struggling for

me, because I feel like, well, I
do feel my dad or I do fit. Not

anymore, it's not a struggle at
all. So we have to be willing to

rewrite the narrative, to change
the beliefs, so that you can

actually do the being thing.
Because Dorothy, here's what I'm

going to tell you, we started
this call with manifesting 101,

make a list of the things you
really want, and then make a

list of how much you believe it.
And here's what I'm going to

tell you,

everything and anything will
manifest if you want it with a

10 and you believe it with a 10.
And if it hasn't, it is either

because you don't really want it
or you don't really believe it.

And I have a funny feeling that
you have some

unconscious commitments to your
mother.

You've made some unconscious
commitments to not outdoing her,

just doing just enough, but not
being too fantastic, being good,

but not the best. And I think
you need to rewrite that life

script that you wrote When your
mother was alive, because you

were you loved your mom, and you

sometimes struggled with your
mom, and you made a lot of

commitments to who you were
going to be in the world, so you

didn't outdo your mom too much,
and now your mom really wants to

see you shine, and She's
cheering for you.

How does that make you feel like
now we talk feeling again. Let's

go back to it. How does that
make you feel? I feel amazing

in the sense that and lighter,
lighter. So let's put two feet

on the floor, and let's all
anchor in with Dorothy. We all

get to feel that. It doesn't
serve us to tell ourselves.

Stories like because that is not
a truth. That is a story. The

truth is,

I mean, I don't want to say it
just like that, but the truth

is, your mother wants her
pictures up all over your house.

What the hell? What the heck you
could put a picture of me? Could

you please put pictures of me?
I'd like many of them in the

bathroom. In fact, when you go
in there, please put a picture

of me so you can look over and
go, Hey Mom, we're going the

bathroom together. Who do she
laugh? Anyways, I'm only

teasing. But I think you need to
get lots of pictures. I need to

just bring all that happiness
back alive. Your mother is not

far. It's 222, where I am right
now. Let's all make a wish,

because you're the angels are
around you. Mom is not far.

She's ready, and for whatever
reason, she's like, bring the

pictures out, even the ones I
didn't like,

which was most of them. And
that's also why

my mom didn't like any of the
pictures. And I know that if I

put pictures up, my mom will say
I didn't look good in that

picture. I needed to lose
weight, or I needed to get my

hair done differently, or I
needed to do something

different. And so now it's time
for you to break that commitment

to your mom that we play small.

Unknown: Yeah, yes, 100%

Crystal Andrus Morissette: and
you know, on the other side of

desire is an energy called
anger. And women are so

uncomfortable with anger, but
you know what I just felt in

you, the energy of anger? Yes,
absolutely, that's what I just

felt. Anger is not unhealthy.
Anger is energy in action. Yes,

absolutely, it's ridiculous. I
have made unconscious

commitments to my mother, and my
mother doesn't want me to do

that anymore. And, in fact, I
don't want to do that anymore,

and I have no karma with my mom.
Say that, Dorothy, I don't I

have no karma with my mom. I
have no karma to clear with my

mom. I have no karma to clear
with my mom. I have no karma to

clear with anybody. I've I have
no karma to clear with anybody.

I am 100% true. I am good, and
now it's my time. I am good, and

now it's my time. So Dorothy,
aren't you angry, even a tiny

bit of frustration that you have
allowed yourself to hold

yourself back based on
unconscious things that you

didn't even know were getting in
the way. Oh shit, yes. Bang

them. Oh geez, I just just like
them. I'm evangelical. I'm on

the stage right now going

the people are followed. They're
just falling to the ground with

the Holy Spirit. No, I'm just
kidding. And then pride is just

one level higher than anger,
which is like and don't you

deserve, no matter what you've
been through, no matter all the

grieving, no matter

how hard it was at times, no
matter how many times you put

Your own needs last, all of
that. Don't you deserve

happiness now more than ever
before. Don't you deserve to be

happy? Absolutely. Don't you
deserve to have an incredible

business. Yep, if other women
can do it, can't you do it? Oh

yeah, yeah. Oh yeah, girl. So
let me ask you the big question

that we're going to finish our
coaching call with today. So

Dorothy, what would courage have
you do

light a fire under my butt? So
what are you going to do? What

does that mean? That means I'm
going to stick to my word for

2025, which was momentum,
momentum. And away she goes,

Yeah, and we all have this, but
what you're learning now is is

not so much of this and this
now. What you're learning is

what goes up doesn't have to
come down. That was an old song.

We all need to go what goes up,
keeps on going, if the ignition

is strong enough, because that's
the truth. If you want something

badly enough, that rocket of
desire will take off into the

universe, and it will never come
back down to earth

if you want it badly enough. So
listen, it's not just the

wanting, it's also the
believing. So yes, I know you've

got it in you. You're human. You
had a little setback, and now

you're going to say, What would
courage have me do? And I would

say, Dorothy, now is the time to
strategize. Now that you're

feeling different.

So courage would probably go
outside and stand in the snow

with your bare feet,

ground yourself, shock your
nervous system, jolt yourself

and go, girl, tomorrow is the
Love Day. I don't want to say

that, because I don't, in case
the podcast don't go out when I

say so, it's the month. It's
February, it's the month of

love. How?

About courage. Would have you do
something that is so loving for

yourself?

What could you do this weekend
that would be so self loving?

I think would be to go for a
nice long walk with my dogs.

Beautiful, beautiful. And on
that walk, you're just going to

let yourself be one with
yourself, with nature, with all

that is and all that will ever
be, and you'll remind yourself

that you have everything you
need to be you, not just to be

you, but to be your best, you.
It's all in there, and now you

just have to allow it.

Take a nice deep breath.

I am Let's fill that word in,
Dorothy, what are you now? I am

awesome. I am awesome, and you
are. Thank you so much, Dorothy,

thank you. What a powerful
session, ladies. Thank you so

much for being on our very first
podcast here for Simply...Woman, I

want everyone. Let's all take a
deep breath, because whether you

were in the hot seat today,
thank you, Dorothy, you're

amazing, or you were just
listening along, I know

something in this conversation
landed for you. I know it did

for me, because it landed
exactly where it needed for you,

and I know that. So here's my
question today, as we get ready

to finish off Simply...Woman,
what's one thing that you're

taking away from today? What
spoke to you? What shifted

inside of you.

Because empowerment isn't just
about hearing the truth, it's

about choosing what you do with
it. So take a moment to feel it,

to own it, and to decide,
because you have to decide,

decide what comes next for you.
And if today's session moves

something inside of you, don't
keep it to yourself. Please

share this episode with another
woman who needs to hear it. Make

sure you subscribe,

because next week we're going
even deeper. And if you're ready

for real transformation and you
want to step into this work on a

whole new level. We are going
even deeper into empowerment.

We're going to be talking a
little bit more about our Master

Empowerment Coach Certification.
But this is just the beginning,

because here's the truth,

you are powerful beyond measure,

and now it's time to rise until
next time you are Simply...Woman!

Crystal Andrus Morissette: That's
it for today's episode of The

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just one question, What would

courage have you do?